{"id":10769,"date":"2011-12-19T01:00:20","date_gmt":"2011-12-19T09:00:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.theweddingyentas.com\/?p=10769"},"modified":"2011-12-19T00:59:25","modified_gmt":"2011-12-19T08:59:25","slug":"tales-from-the-veil-the-miracle-of-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/archive.bryanfriedman.me\/yentas\/tales-from-the-veil\/tales-from-the-veil-the-miracle-of-marriage","title":{"rendered":"Tales From The Veil: The Miracle of Marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"Another “Tales from the Veil” story is brought to us by Rachel Kitt who is the Executive Assistant at the Jewish Federation of San Diego County. She loves to run competitively and for pleasure, bake gluten-free sweets, and hang out with her hubby, a San Diego attorney. After eloping to the island of Oahu in December of 2007, Rachel finds herself looking back on her Jewish destination wedding adventure and laughing out loud. Her story will show you how any bride can take wedding disasters and turn them into wedded bliss. Lemons into lemonade. Grapes into Manischewitz. We’ll be hearing more from Rachel as a regular contributor to The Wedding Yentas.<\/em><\/p>\n

So you\u2019re married (or engaged, woo hoo!) and Chanukah is literally breathing down your neck. I mean, it\u2019s Monday and we light the first candle on Tuesday night! Whether you have been with your special someone for a long long time or a short time, holidays do seem a little different now, don\u2019t they? You and your spouse may have many reasons to get lazy with gift-giving. Perhaps it\u2019s, \u201cWell, we have the same bank account, so why bother spending our<\/em> money on a present?\u201d Or maybe it\u2019s the \u201cI\u2019ve already given him ___ gifts (fill in the blank with a big number) over the past ___ years\/months\/holidays (fill in the blank with an appropriate number) so I\u2019m exempt this year, right? RIGHT<\/em>?\u201d<\/p>\n

Ladies, I\u2019m here to tell you to stop with the excuses. As a woman who has never given her husband even one Chanukah gift over the past ten years, I\u2019m going to give you some advice, and this year, I\u2019m even planning to take my own.<\/p>\n

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In comfortable and wonderful relationships, sometimes we get apathetic. It\u2019s like \u201cEh, another birthday? So soon? Didn\u2019t we have December last year?\u201d But here\u2019s the thing. Close your eyes. Walk down Memory Lane. Think back to your favorite Chanukah warm-fuzzy when mom\/dad\/Uncle Pete\/Grandma Dolly\/Some Other Fabulous Relative gave you that special gift that made you go \u201cYessss!\u201d Remember how good it felt? It felt good because you knew that they listened to you. They remembered and they made special effort to buy you the one thing that meant a lot to you.<\/p>\n

So why not do that for your main squeeze? So what that we aren\u2019t kids anymore? Who cares that we have bills to pay and share bank accounts? Part of the romance is the surprise and the \u201cOh I didn\u2019t think you were listening or remembered!\u201d I promise it\u2019ll be fun. <\/p>\n

So unlike the past ten Chanukahs where I\u2019ve been too lazy, too cheap, and too indifferent to buy The Mr. a present, this year I\u2019m going all-out. That\u2019s right. This year, I\u2019m doing it up big: one gift for each night of Chanukah. Each gift is special. It\u2019s something he either has on his wishlist, or something that shows him that I pay attention. I listen. I care. Winning!<\/p>\n

We may not go out for Valentine\u2019s Day dinner in February, or take a special trip for our five-year anniversary, but this year, I\u2019m shooting to make this Chanukah special for my husband. He deserves it. And nothing makes a marriage stronger than a happy husband. <\/p>\n

Happy Chanukah!<\/p>\n

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