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<\/p>\nHe liked it so he went and put a ring on it. Mazel tov. <\/p>\n
Now that the engagement ring is taking up coveted finger real estate, it’s time to tackle one of the items on your To Do list: purchasing wedding bands. Naturally, this is a fun and important activity, and most brides daydream about adding some extra bling to the fourth digit or complementing the glory of the engagement ring. <\/p>\n
Hold your horses! Don\u2019t rush off to the jewelry store yet! There are some traditions that you may want to know about first so you know how to plan the big ring exchange on your wedding day.<\/p>\n
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I can hear your whining from here: \u201cBut Yentaaaaaaas! I\u2019ve always wanted an intricate, pave-set, 2 carat, eternity diamond wedding band in white gold!!\u201d Wipe the worry from your little punims. I have a solution, but first a little story, just like all good Yentas tell.<\/p>\n
Jewish law says that a marriage becomes official when the groom gives his bride something valuable and that\u2019s typically a ring. The rabbis say that it should be made of plain gold, with no blemishes, ornaments, or breaks in the ring. The continuity of the ring promotes the hope for an everlasting marriage and the lack of ornaments (read: diamonds. Yes, diamonds) signifies the simple beauty that comes from marriage.<\/p>\n
During the wedding ceremony, the groom declares to the bride, \u201cBehold, you are betrothed unto me with this ring, according to the law of Moses and Israel.\u201d Don\u2019t worry. The rabbi will cue the lines. No memorization necessary. Jewish law requires that only the groom gives a ring to the bride, but many modern couples choose to exchange rings. Okay, now brace yourselves. This may be news to you. Raise both your hands. Put your left hand down. Your wedding ring finger is now your right pointer finger, according to Jewish tradition. While Christianity says the left finger is closest to the heart, the Talmud says that it’s the right forefinger that is closest to the heart. The next time a priest and a rabbi are in a bar, they can duke that one out. <\/p>\n So now you know the details of the ring\u2019s appearance and important fingers according to Jewish law. But, wait, let me guess: you\u2019re a modern bride and you already bought your icy wedding band and you\u2019ve perfectly manicured your left fourth finger. Borrow a solid gold band from a family member or friend and use it in the ceremony. Have your best man (who, most likely, was already carrying the ceremony rings) hold onto the \u201creal life\u201d wedding band and you can slip that on after the ceremony so you can party in it. I actually borrowed my grandma’s solid gold band to use in our ceremony and it served double duty as my something borrowed (and I suppose my something old?). It was special looking out at her during the ceremony, knowing I was carrying on a Jewish tradition, using her family heirloom. <\/p>\n The beautiful custom that takes place during the ceremony is meaningful and important. It\u2019s great to honor this tradition, but it\u2019s also reasonable to live your modern, American Jewish life. After all, what happens in the chuppah, stays in the chuppah. <\/p>\n