Monthly Archives: February 2013

Kendra Scott Gives You Wedding Day Sparkle

Recently, my friend and fellow wedding junkie, Beverly Harris of Beverly Harris Weddings and Events invited me for a lovely morning of bubbles and baubles! I was in the great company of other high end wedding vendors (a wedding blogger like me was in heaven, talking shop with the real pros!) as we sipped some champy and got googly eyes over stunning Kendra Scott jewelry inside the inviting and delightful Beverly Hills boutique.

Kendra Scott Color Bar

I’ve seen Kendra Scott in magazines and on celebrities, but I’d never personally handled the jewelry, and you guys, it’s gorgeous in person! And oh-so perfect for weddings! I can’t recommend Kendra Scott enough!

There are tons of options for you in store or online ready to go, and they would all make amazing gifts to your loved ones or even yourself (hey! you deserve pretty things, too!), but where I really gushed was the Color Bar.

What’s on tap at the Color Bar? Oh, you know, only the fantastic, high-end jewelry you expect with pretty much a rainbow (sans pot of gold — sorry) of colors to mix and match as you customize your bridal jewelry. YES. Customize. That’s like a bride’s favorite word.

All hail the Color Bar by Kendra Scott. I know this is a web site about Jewish weddings, but do you hear the angels singing?

All hail the Color Bar by Kendra Scott. I know this is a web site about Jewish weddings, but do you hear the angels singing?

I learned how the Color Bar works and was quite impressed with the process and it’s hardly even a “process.” The demonstration consisted of a touch screen, interactive experience! Cool geek overload! You can do this online, too. So, first you pick your style of jewelry. Pick your earrings/bracelet/ring/necklace and decide if you want it in gold or silver. Then choose your color gem. And, in theory, you’re done.

But say the piece you select is a chandelier earring with various spaces for stones. You can design your own pattern or arrangement of colored gems in each space. For example, online just now, I designed an ombre-style pair of chandelier earrings using shades of purple-ish tones. I was able to select the area and then click on the color. I made a few different versions before I settled on this one. See the progression of my build out.

Kendra Scott Color Bar

Cool, right?

Not into an ombre? Fine. You can do it all one color. Or just use two. Or go all Jackson Pollock and splatter color everywhere. No right, no wrong. You’re in control, sister. (Mmmmm. “Control.” Another favorite word for brides.).

I’m a big fan of color. I love colorful things and have a hard time sticking to muted tones. My own wedding was pink and orange with splashes of lime. So, I’m not kidding when I say I love color. But if you’re into black and white or charcoals or even just soft creams, you can still take advantage of the Color Bar and create the piece of jewelry that suits you. It’s all about you! And as it should be! Don’t ever let anyone tell you differently!

Kendra Scott Color Bar

So, when you’re looking for your bridal jewels, think about Kendra Scott! And the price points are absolutely affordable. I must admit I never purchased anything there because I assumed the prices were waaaa-aaaa-aaaay out of my budget and my husband would kill me. But I learned that their pieces are totally in most brides’ budgets so much so that you could probably customize a few pieces of jewelry. You need earrings for your bachelorette party, right? And you want something cute and sparkly to wear to your upcoming shower? Exactly.

Happy coloring with Kendra Scott!

{Real Jewish Weddings} Los Angeles, CA

A note from The Wedding Yentas: This is my sister-in-law’s wedding in which I was the Maid of Honor, my husband a groomsman, and my daughter a flower girl. It’s an honor to publish her wedding not only because it was beautiful, but because it was a special family occasion! And yes, I know I was technically a matron of honor, but can we just all agree that “matron” sounds too frumpy and unfun? So happy to share this wedding with my fellow Yentas!

Nothing is more important to both Alison and Michael than loved ones, laughter, music, and good food. When planning their wedding day, they were sure to make those four passions take the spotlight. By using a regal purple as the main color (Alison’s favorite color and Michael’s college color, go Northwestern Cats!) and their take on a simple yet elegant aesthetic, they were able to make the day shine with the help of their loving family and friends, a rocking band, incredible food, and inevitable laughter.

Since both bride and groom are professional performers (as are many of their family and friends), the band played while various members of the party would sing their hearts out, including a special performance by the groom in which he surprised his wife by singing a song just for her (“Grow Old With Me” by Jason Robert Brown). The ceremony itself was a reform ceremony in which Michael drank most of the wine, Alison and Michael tearfully and giddily exchanged vows, and Michael crushed the glass to roaring sounds of “Mazel Tov.” It was a beautiful day, full of love and joy, which neither of them will ever forget!

Mazel tov, Alison and Michael!

Los Angeles Jewish Weddings

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Venue/Caterer: Skirball Center
Photographer: ES Photography
Coordinator: Melissa Jordan of Liquid Bliss
Florist: Happy Flowers
Band: Wayne Foster Entertainment
Cake: Cake Crumbs
Officiant: Cantor David Shukiar from Temple Adat Elohim
Wedding Dress: Camarillo Bridal
Bridesmaids/Flower Girl Dresses: David’s Bridal
Groom/Groomsmen’s Tuxes: Victor Talbots
Party Favors: Salty and Sweet Theme! Sweet from Penny’s Sweet Shoppe and bath salts from bath junkie
Bride’s Hair Stylist: Susie Hooper
Bridesmaids’ Hair Stylist: Briana Bayar, Bella B Salon
Bridal and Bridesmaids’ Makeup Artist: Samantha Salk

Mourning and Wedding Dates: What You Need to Know About Jewish Customs

Usually around these parts of the inter webs, we talk about fun, happy, pretty things — the wedding equivalent to rainbows and unicorns and fairy dust. I like it like that. And clearly you do, too, since y’all are so loyal as fellow Yentas. But here’s the thing: sometimes, gefilte fish gets real, and we need to talk about things that aren’t as rainbowy and unicornish and fairy dust-like.

I’m going to be frank with you: sometimes, people die. Well, people always die, but sometimes it’s poor timing and they die within the year of your wedding. This could be a, how do I say this? a problem.

This week, I got a phone call from a hotel catering manager who was looking for some information about the Jewish mourning period because her bride and groom just notified her that they’d have to postpone the wedding. The wedding was set for summer of 2013 and a grandparent just passed away. They want to delay the wedding until the period of mourning is over, but the venue clearly stated that their deposit would not be transferrable as noted in the contract. Obviously, the couple is upset by this, and they are currently working on a solution that is mutually beneficial.

This sad tale brought the catering manager to me via phone call (she and I did not know each other previously as we live in different states and have never worked together on The Wedding Yentas) and we spoke about the significance of mourning in Judaism and why we both think that the venue should accommodate the couple and transfer their deposit to a TBD date.

So, not to sound like your bubbie, but, a thousand times POO POO (spit), in case you need to know, I thought I’d share some Jewish mourning guidelines and how they might be relevant to your wedding if the timing is unfortunate. As always, the way you choose to observe Jewish traditions is up to you and what’s best for your family, or consult your rabbi for guidance. As with most traditional Jewish observances, there are many layers to the restrictions. What’s covered here is literally the tip of the iceberg and should not be used as the absolute manual regarding the mourning period.

Basically, after a loved one passes away, there is a series of stages that the mourner goes through varying from solitary grieving to being comforted by others, from staying in the home to returning to the normalcy of life. Typically, the first seven days (Shivah) are the hardest for the mourner who, only at the end of Shivah, begins to take callers and well wishers. Shloshim lasts 30 days and the mourner begins to move on as he or she goes out into the world to do what he or she needs to do. However during Shivah and Shloshim, joining in on celebratory parties or taking part in joyous events is not acceptable as the mourner’s wounds are still so fresh.

When Shloshim ends, the mourner is bridged into the remainder of the year (the whole year makes a revolution from the burial date to the anniversary of the burial). According to Jewish observances, for the mourning of one’s parents, there is to be no attending celebrations of joy during that first year.

Now, who is to say what’s a joyous occasion? This can be such a subjective term. What if going for a walk with your dog brings you joy? What if eating ooey gooey chocolate chip cookies for breakfast brings you joy? The “joy” that the scholars refer to is religious joy or celebration like… you guessed it… a wedding celebration. Going to wish the couple “mazel tov” or attending the chuppah ceremony is OK. However, joining the festivities of a meal and dancing to gleeful music is not.

If a wedding ceremony takes place in a catering or banquet facility where music is played, there is a general rule that people who are mourning parents should not attend for 12 months and 30 days for other relatives.

A festive meal with friends and relatives is considered joy, and the mourner should avoid occasions like these until after 12 months when mourning for parents, and 30 days when mourning for other relatives.

Interestingly, if a mourner chooses to not be part of the wedding day or has requested that there be a postponement of the wedding date and there is a possibility that the delay might cause the bride or groom to withdraw from the marriage, the mourner may attend at any time of mourning and under any conditions in order to avoid indefinite cancellation. The bottomline here is: mourning should not cause the wedding to be canceled. However, if the wedding can be simply postponed, that is better.

It is said that if a mourner feels her or she must attend the wedding celebration before the mourning period is officially over, he or she should perform a serviceable role, like help prepare or serve the dinner or usher guests to seats at the ceremony.

In my personal opinion, a delay of a wedding due to a death in the family is absolutely reasonable, though unfortunate, and wedding vendors should honor this custom without penalizing the couple monetarily. Most contracts typically say that events can’t be canceled without penalty unless there is an act of God. Typically, most people think of natural disasters that make it impossible for society to function. However, a death in the family may also be considered an act of God by some people, and is typically unavoidable.

I hope that none of you ever have to refer to this cheat sheet, but thought the information may be helpful. Now, go out and live life and enjoy your wedding planning!

April O'Hare Photography

{Real Jewish Weddings} New Brunswick, NJ

Amriel and Adina tied the knot this past October in beautiful Rutgers gardens! The bride and groom are an adorable Jewish couple who live in NYC. It’s so clear that Amriel makes Adina smile, and they are so sweet together!

On their wedding day they opted to have a first look where they posed for the camera in beautiful light with romantic surroundings. After their photos, the day continued with the Jewish traditions like the veiling of bride (bedeken), Ketubah signing, ceremony under the chuppah, and a festive reception.

Mazel tov, Adina and Amriel!

New Jersey Jewish Weddings

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Photographer: Nadya Furnari Photography
Venue: Rutgers Gardens
Caterer & Cake: Gemstone Catering
Ceremony Music: Dan Nadel
Reception Music: JMC DJ Entertainment
Dress & Veil: Rosa Clara from Designer Loft
Makeup Artist: Makeup by Emily
Hair Stylist: Lani Kay Design
Officiant- Cantor Perry Fine
Bridesmaids’ Dresses- Bill Levkoff from Here Comes the Bridesmaid
Ketubah: Stephanie Caplan of TheKetubah

Never Too Soon To Talk Honeymoon

You may as well pack your e-bags and put on your “Just Married” flip flops because we’re about to take you on a tour of honeymoon options and locations. No airline fees, no mini hotel shampoos, and no layovers to your final destination — just your computer, your excitement, and The Yentas! It’s exciting to bring on Runya Simon, a Honeymoon Planning Specialist who is was a recent-ish bride and and now mother to baby girl Brynn! You may remember her gorgeous day we featured in Real Weddings! Enjoy!

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Wedding planning can be quite a megillah: so many florists to meet, so many cakes to taste, and many gorgeous gowns to try on! While you are over the moon with excitement and busy hashing out all the details, don’t forget that after you say “I do” and after you dance your little tushie off at your reception, you and your honey will get that much needed alone time and relaxation on your very own vacation made for two: your honeymoon!!

There are many ideas of the derivation of the term “honeymoon,” one of which can be found in the Merriam-Webster dictionary that dates back to 1546: “the idea that the first month of marriage is the sweetest,” and in Hebrew it translates to “yerach d’vash,” or honey month.

With iPhones, Blackberries, computers, and iPads sadly taking over our everyday lives, going on a honeymoon is not only a chance to take the much-awaited trip with your honey and escape work and life’s responsibilities, but it’s also a way to truly unplug from the hustle and bustle and focus on your new life together as husband and wife. It’s also pretty awesome to bask in the glory with all the travel perks that come along with being newlyweds!

Couples always ask me when they should plan and book their “moon” and my answer is always right away. The ring is on your finger, the date and venue have been booked, so start thinking about the type of trip you want to take and when. Most traditional honeymoon locations book up and you want to stay ahead of the game and make sure you get exactly what you are looking for! Depending on the departure date of your honeymoon, be sure to prepare as best you can for the upcoming trip.

This is not just any old vacation; you have many things on your mind and wedding plans that are coming to fruition. So make yourself a checklist and ask these simple questions: Is my passport up to date? Do I need travel shots? Do I have the right wardrobe? Should I pack before or after the wedding? Should I wear my sparkler of a ring, or play it safe with a simple band? Your honeymoon planning should be totally stress-free, so don’t wait until the last minute to plan. Pamper yourself and use an expert honeymoon travel agent, such as myself, to help you with every detail to make this the dreamiest “moon” that’s all about you: the happy couple!

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Honeymoons have evolved over the years and I am here to tell you that it’s 100% acceptable to break the mold! Your “moon” should be special and specific to whatever you want it to be. There are no rules that apply! Traditionally, the couple leaves on their honeymoon the following day or two after the wedding, but this is not necessarily the case anymore. Couples are now carefully taking into consideration where they want to go, what they want out of their “moon” (besides just alone time, wink wink), and what time of year they want to make this sweet trip! Depending on the locale that you choose, you may need to wait a few month. Let’s be honest: if you get married in December/January and your dream honeymoon is a trip to Alaska, it’s probably not the best time to visit the land of glaciers and salmon. Likewise, if your wedding is planned for July and you love the idea of visiting Australia, you probably have forgotten that it’s mid-winter there! It’s okay to wait. You have waited so long to find your soul mate, and have patiently waited for your turn down the aisle, so it’s all right to take your time and plan your perfect honeymoon!

Your honeymoon doesn’t have to be completely paid for out of your own pocket either! Register for memories that will last a lifetime with a honeymoon registry! This is a popular option for couples that would like to add experiences to their gift list: great as a stand-alone registry or to complement a traditional one. A honeymoon registry lets you create a unique gift list of all the parts of your dream vacation, such as the fantasy suite you’ve had your eye on, relaxing massages, romantic dinners, and exciting excursions.

It works perfectly whether or not you know exactly where you want to go because the gifts are virtual and you receive the cash to use when you’re ready, however you like. Deposit a Gift is a perfect option for a honeymoon registry because of how user-friendly it is it is for you and guests: they offer pre-made lists for easy set-up (look for the blue ‘Rapid Registry’ button!), accept credit cards, and even offer a customer service number in case granny gets fermished.

Here’s how it works:

  • Users make gift registries just like people do with a traditional store registry, using a database of images or by clicking on a pre-made list.
  • Guests choose a gift to purchase, finding the right price point for their budget. They are not actually buying the present, but it feels more personal than sending a check. The money gets deposited into the recipient’s Deposit a Gift account.
  • When users are ready to spend the money, they cash-out in the form of check, VISA gift card or direct deposit.

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My husband and I got married in the month of March, yet we dreamed of a Greek/Mediterranean honeymoon, but we soon found that our “moon” would have to wait until June in order to have optimal weather and other tourism factors, so three months later, still newlyweds, we embarked on a wonderful Mediterranean Cruise adventure which we will never forget. Two days after the wedding we were lucky enough to escape to Maui for just a few relaxing days in paradise to unwind and enjoy our “Just Married” status (Brides, I know you want to wear your Mrs. ____ Juicy track suit on the plane!). If you choose this postponed honeymoon, you can always get away for a night, use air miles to go somewhere not too far from home, or drive to some romantic location for a few nights, all while your official honeymoon awaits you! If you are a traditionalist and must go on your honeymoon the day or two following your wedding — you go girl (and guy)! When and where you plan to celebrate the sweetness of your new nuptials doesn’t matter as long as you’re both happy. Whether it’s on a white sandy beach in paradise, or amongs lions and tigers on an African safari, you will be snuggled close with your beshert!

Honeymooning with your honey will be the icing on the cake, the cat’s meow and the bee’s knees! Saying “I do” is just the start to the many adventures you will have together, so don’t let your honeymoon be just an afterthought! This trip marks the newlywed phase of marriage and should you have a little too much fun “honeymooning,” you will soon need to book a Babymoon — but that is a whole other type of trip that we can discuss when the time is right!

Mazel tov and happy travels!

Runya Simon is a Honeymoon and Wedding Travel Specialist. Just like a wedding coordinator helps your wedding dreams come true, she assists you with every step of planning and booking the “moon” of your dreams. Runya is based in Los Angeles, but can help jet-setting brides and grooms everywhere. Her vast knowledge and passion for travel make her your ideal honeymoon coordinator. You can email her with questions and reservations at runya.simon@gmail.com. Runya is looking forward to hearing from you! Enjoy the rest of your planning!