Gentlemen, if you’ve found this post yourself, I bow down to you. If your lady friend “accidentally” left this window up on your computer, well, thank her later because I’m about to share with you how you can purchase an engagement ring in the approximate right size without her knowing.
Chances are, you do not know her ring size. And why should you? Purchasing a ring is not like purchasing her Starbucks order. Coffee happens several times a week, and cream and sugar is a learned ratio with repeat orders. But rings don’t get purchased every week, and it’s a much more serious purchase than a grande nonfat soy vanilla latte, no sugar added. Yes, coffee makes your love perk up, but a ring with bling MAKES. YOUR. LOVE. PERK. UP.
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So with such a monumental item, you want it to be perfect, right? You’re spending time researching the 4 Cs (carat, color, cut, and clarity) and creating the ideal setting, but wouldn’t it be awful if it doesn’t slide past her first knuckle or it could double as a bracelet? If you weren’t already on your knee, you’d drop to the floor in defeat. The size may not be exact and precise — it’s likely she’ll need fine tuning of the size to accommodate body temperature and hand movement — but being able to put it on after the big moment is definitely the goal here.
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So, how do you find out her size without ruining the surprise?
Ask Her Peeps:
It’s more than likely she has a confidant or two who have catalogued this data for this exact instance. Her best friends, sister, or mom may have that information tucked away. Ask them. They’ll be more than glad to help fill you in. Beware: girl squealing may ensue. Prepare yourself. It’s the first of many occasions so you may as well get used to it.
Rob Her:
Go into her jewelry box and play jewel thief. It’s like the game, but in real life. Find another ring you’ve seen her wear and the jeweler will be able to size it when you buy the real deal. If there are many rings to choose from, make sure it’s a ring she’s worn on her fourth finger. A thumb ring size is different than an engagement ring size. Try to choose a ring she doesn’t wear every day so that she doesn’t notice that it’s missing.
If you don’t have faith in your robbery skills, you can trace the ring on a piece of paper. The jeweler should be able to estimate the size based on your work of art. Yeah, it’s a little ghetto, but it’ll do the trick.
Be Sneaky:
While she sleeps, take a string — floss will even work! — and tie it around her left ring finger. Knot it where the ends meet. Ta da. You just made your own DIY ring sizer. This is probably your last resort method, but if it’s successful, it will work in determining her ring size. Just don’t wake her up, whatever you do. To achieve this, I suggest you don’t breathe, make noise, or let your nerves leave you shaky. Be stealth and pretend it’s the most important game of Jenga of your life. What if she wakes up? Well, A) you’re not that slick and, B) have a story ready to go. She’s going to want to know why you’re flossing her finger. Construct your alibi or your plan goes bye bye.
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If none of these ideas will work for you or your betrothed, you can just be honest. She won’t exactly mind that you’re trying to do things correctly when it comes to buying her engagement ring. If it’s common knowledge between you two that getting engaged is inevitable, just say something like, “So that I know for when the time comes, what is your ring size? I want to make sure I have all the right info.” She’ll be glad to share this number with you and she’ll probably G-chat all of her friends that day that OMG IT’S HAPPENING.
Good luck! Wishing you big, fat mazels in advance!
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