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Tips for Writing Wedding Thank You Notes

One of these things is not like the others:

*photos by Eight20 Photography, Mi Belle Photography, Jules Bianchi, Shira Weinberger, David Michael Photography, Beautiful Day Photography

Hmmm, let’s see if we can figure out which one. Okay, we have a wedding couple having fun in, let’s count ’em, one, two, three, four, five, six photos and, oh yes, an exhausted woman working away at thank you notes after her wedding has come and gone.

I think it’s pretty easy to see which one is not like the others. And my guess is that you’d rather be “the others” than “that one.” Most brides would agree, and that’s okay. Getting married is way more fun than writing thank you notes. However, thank you notes are important. And, really, not all that bad.

In case you’re having some thank you note anxiety, here’s a little blog Xanax that may help you stay focused and positive.

Check out Wedding Paper Divas for your entire paper suite which, if you choose, can include thank you notes! Matching stationery is super cute and when you order your invitations, you’ll also be saving yourself a step in your thank you note writing because you won’t have to schlep out to a store to purchase generic note cards when you could be playing with your new Kitchen Aid mixer! I love Wedding Paper Divas because everything is customized. Everything! You select the style and graphics and then you insert your wording. Nice card stock and options for letterpress and thermography help class up your selection in a boutique fashion. Also, when you submit your order, a real live human being with eyes and everything reviews your project and proofs it for any errors and even advises you on wording etiquette! You’ll have final say, of course, but it’s nice to know you have that cushion. Then, you purchase, and a handful of days later, your goods are in your mailbox. It’s such a turnkey service with actually good product. If, for some reason, you already have your invitation suite handled, but you’d like to take advantage of their thank you note products, you can purchase them a la carte and still be able to thank your guests in style.

No matter how or where you order your thank you notes, I beg you do to do the following!

  • Had a bridal shower? Got lots of goodies there? Awesome. Now, get your thank you notes done before your wedding. I don’t care how close together the shower and wedding are, your wedding guests should not be coming to your wedding, un-thanked from their shower gifting. I actually know someone who gave a gift at a shower and then went to the wedding some weeks later and she had still never received a thank you note from the bride. The lack of acknowledgement sat pretty heavy while she brought a gift to the wedding. Shower gifts and wedding gifts are not two-for-one in the thank you note ratio. Each gift gets a note. Bottomline.
  • Brides always want to know when thank you notes should be sent. Brides and grooms should wait no more than six to eight weeks after the ceremony to send their wedding thank you cards, but of course the sooner the better!
  • If you receive gifts before the wedding feel free to send the thank you cards as they come in. You’ll be glad you stuck to this practice after the wedding because then you’ll just have to write notes for the gifts you received on the wedding day and after. It also helps to make a goal and send out so many thank you cards a day.
  • Creating content to include in the thank you note can be a daunting task for couples, but make sure to greet the guest, express your gratitude, be specific about the gift, and thank them for attending (or for thinking of you if they couldn’t make it). It is also nice to make specific examples of their gift and tell them how you use it. For example, “I love making my coffee every morning in the machine you got us!”
  • This sounds like a no-brainer, but it’s important! Make sure you spell their names correctly and that you are including the right gift for the right person. If you keep an organized spreadsheet, you shouldn’t have a problem noting who got you what and how to spell their names.
  • For Jewish weddings, it’s common to receive a monetary gift from someone very close to the couple. It’s not necessary to thank them for the exact amount, but you could simply say
    “thank you for your generosity,” or note what it will go toward: “Thank you for your generosity! We have plans to purchase our dream home soon, and your gift will help our dream come true!”
  • For families, address to Mr. And Mrs. If you are close with them use their first names inside the card or if you are not that close use the same salutation inside.
  • Make sure to hand stamp every note as prepaid postage techniques are too impersonal.

The days of being tied to a formal thank you note that says “Thank you” in a fancy black script across the front are over! Now, couples are getting creative and stylish with their thank you notes. After all, since the wedding is over they’re the last opportunity to extend the wedding’s theme and style. No matter what, feel free to make your thank you notes a reflection of you as a couple! One of my favorite ways to personalize a thank you note is to include photos form the wedding! This can be snapshots laid out like a pinboard or a cute photo of the couple with a “Thank You!” sign. Thank you notes are also another way you can utilize the adorable engagement photos you took! All of these ideas are also featured on thank you cards from Wedding Paper Divas.

POP QUIZ! Notice a VIP Yenta featured on one of the thank you cards?? She and her husband are a Real Weddings couple and she’s also the regular contributor to Yenta-quette, the helpful advice column on The Wedding Yentas!

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Hopefully this article has helped you calm your spilkes about writing thank you notes! Don’t dread writing your notes. Instead, enjoy your gifts and reflect on all your memories from your special day. After all, each thank you note should be a symbol of all your favorite wedding moments like:

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Sponsored Post From The Expert: Jewish Wedding Ceremony Traditions and Explanations

Sometimes, we need a play-by-play reminder of what the Jewish wedding traditions and ceremony are all about. If you’re new to Jewish weddings or you need to brush up on the whole event since your the marriage booth at your summer camp’s carnival, this post, sponsored by World of Judaica, will be a total lifesaver! Keep this post bookmarked so you can refer to it as you plan your wedding. Remember, though, that it’s a traditional guide and you should check with your officiant about how your wedding ceremony will be personalized and tailored to you since every couple is different and every Rabbi or Cantor is different! Mazel tov from World of Judaica!

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It’s true that many traditions may vary between the Ashkenazi and Sephardic communities, but no matter the affiliation and heritage, the wedding day is supposed to be the happiest and holiest day in one’s life. This day is considered a personal Yom Kippur for the bride (Kallah) and groom (Chatan).

It is customary for the bride and groom not to see each other for one week before the wedding. This is called the Kabbalat Panim, and is intended to increase anticipation and excitement for the wedding. When the couple first sees each other on the wedding day, the groom will perform the Badeken, veiling of the bride. The groom lowers a veil over the bride’s face because the tradition of veiling goes back to biblical times when Rebecca covered her face before marrying Isaac. (Many Sephardic communities do not perform the Badeken.)

Before the couple heads to the Chuppah (wedding canopy) for the ceremony, they must first sign the Ketubah. The Ketubah, or marriage contract, outlines the groom’s responsibilities and obligations to his wife. The Ketubah must be signed by two witnesses and has the standing of a legally binding agreement. After the Ketubah is signed the wedding ceremony may commence. The ceremony takes place under the Chuppah, which is a symbol of the home that the new couple will build together, and is open on all sides just as Abraham and Sarah’s tent was open on all sides to always welcome guests with unconditional hospitality.

The best man is first to walk down the aisle standing to the left under the Chuppah, the groom is escorted by both his parents down the aisle before he takes his place to the left of the best man. Next comes the bridesmaids walking single file and take their place to the right of the Chuppah. The maid of honor walks down the aisle alone and takes her place on the right side of the Chuppah. The bride is escorted down the aisle by both parents before entering the Chuppah and joining her groom.

Like many Jewish ceremonies, the wedding ceremony begins with a cup of wine. The Rabbi says a blessing over the cup of wine and a second over the marriage. Both the bride and the groom drink from the cup. This portion of the ceremony is called the Kiddushin. During the ring ceremony the wedding ring is placed on the bride’s right index finger, which is the finger most visible to the witnesses. Jewish wedding rings must be made of solid uninterrupted gold, silver, or platinum with no precious stones or holes breaking the circle. The continuousness of the ring represents the hope for an everlasting marriage. After the exchanging of the rings, the Ketubah is read aloud. Once the groom has handed the Ketubah to his bride, they are officially husband and wife.

The second half of the ceremony continues with the Nissuin. A second cup of wine is filled and the Sheva B’rachot, seven blessings in honor of the wedding, are recited. At the conclusion of the ceremony the groom smashes a glass with his foot and the guests then shout “Mazel Tov!” — congratulations and good luck.

For more information on Jewish wedding traditions, other Jewish traditions and Judaica items visit World of Judaica and their Jewish Learning Center today.

Happy Birthday, America & Happy Wedding Day To You!

Today we’re celebrating America’s birthday, so we’ve prepared a July 4th themed wedding because you can never have enough USA love!

The United States has two beautiful oceans. From Atlantic to Pacific, J. Crew bridesmaid dresses look great on every bridesmaid! We love this getup thanks to the bow and the ocean blue hue!

Silk taffeta bow monde dress from J. Crew



This necklace screams chic Jewish bride-to-be and would be great for pre-wedding celebrating at a rehearsal dinner! Birds are the “it” icon in fashion right now, the flower adds hip femininity, and the colors pay homage to patriotic spirit!

Nautical Escape necklace from Etsy seller RachelleD



Celebrate America from head…

Vintage Inspired Rose Hairpins from Etsy seller LarqueByjason




to toe!

Image courtesy of Eleise Theuer Photography



Your first home together is your chuppah, so in honor of our country, you could create a floral decor that’s inspired by America’s colors. This chuppah created by Sprout Flowers incorporates red and purple florals along the frames. The rings of flowers not only look cool, but symbolize the continuing and never ending love of marriage. This is a great example of a modern and clean chuppah that also complements the overall style of the wedding.

Image courtesy of Sprout Flowers



Your table scape can be a breathtaking sea of red, white and blue that looks modern and elegant at the same time! Consider red flowers with blue and white accents. Go with powder or aqua blues to pair with the red. This table scape by Martha Stewart is really fresh and playful!

Red flowers in a white urn, with a lacy aqua and white mat. Add candles for extra sparkle!



For a little celebratory explosion, you can mark the start of your marriage by breaking blue and red glass under the chuppah! Save the glass from the pouch and put it inside a mezuzah or a frame. Many Judaica shops sell these commemorative items.

Breaking the glass image courtesy of Luster Studios.



Even the guys can enjoy the patriotic theme of your wedding day! Consider these super cool cufflinks for dads, groomsmen, and of course, the groom himself. Clockwise, the goods are: Patriotic Lego Tile from Etsy seller Cufflinks, Captain America Vintage Image Cuff Links from Etsy seller blinkphoto, Uncle Sam 4th of July from Etsy seller wmdean, and American Baseball Cufflinks from Etsy seller qacreate. We Want YOU to love these cufflinks!

Lego, Captain America, Uncle Sam, and leather baseball cufflinks all make great fits for the men of your wedding!



We can’t think of any other way that screams “Go America!” more than sparklers! Create a magical grand exit with sparklers provided for your guests! We love the go-to wedding sparklers company called, quite appropriately, Sparkle. They offer a variety of sparklers lengths and a thorough information guide with tips and facts about their products. We love that they showcase creative ideas for displaying sparklers; they really are the epitome of character and fun! On the most magical night of your life, you totally deserve to exit in a sparkly, big way!

Images courtesy of Sparkle

Real Jewish Weddings | Montreal, Canada

This wedding took place in Montreal at the end of March, when nothing was in bloom and the streets were smudged with some leftover snow. The ceremony and reception took place at a synagogue in Montreal, but the majority if the photos were taken off-site. The couple own a plane, most of the wedding pictures were shot in the hanger with the plane.

From the bride: They say in life there are “no coincidences.” They say “everything happens for a reason,” and things are “meant to be.” It all started a few years ago when I was teaching two-year-olds. During that time, I had been doing some volunteer work for the Montreal Jewish Federation. I needed a kitchen with specific requirements for the event I was planning. Debra, who was one of my student’s mom’s was kind enough to offer her home for my event. Her brother, Andrew, single at the time, was somehow convinced to pop in to the event. He was told there were going to be lots of girls there including his nephew’s “teacher.” We got to talking and realized we had known each other from ten years ago when we attended CEGEP together. I then remembered I had seen him at a bar a couple of months prior to the event. I noticed him staring, but didn’t think anything of it. So there we were flirting and laughing and having a good time. His friend was in the hospital with a minor injury and he was on his way to visit him. I mentioned it would be nice for him to come back and join us for the dessert part of our event. Two hours later was the beginning of the rest of my life! He came back for dessert, asked his sister for my number the next day, called me the next week, and here we are already married for almost a year. Coinicidence? I think not!

Mazel tov, Naomi and Andrew!

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Photographer: Phototerra
Venue & Caterer: Shaar Hashomayim Synagogue
Floral Designer: Main Florist
Musicians: 1945 Band
Dress Store: Anne-Jean Michel
Jewelry: Delmar Jeweller

This wedding was submitted to The Wedding Yentas via Two Bright Lights.

From the Expert: The Fruity Approach to Your Wedding Dress Selection

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It’s so exciting to have an expert in the house! When it comes to dresses, Mill Crest Vintage knows their stuff! Personally, I’ve always loved antiques and historical items. I may not be a mathematician (when I hear “pi” I think pumpkin and apple), but I do know this: vintage styles + wedding = gorgeous! Today, Mill Crest Vintage is on board to tell us all about which kinds of dresses should go on various body types. Paula Cooperman, owner of Mill Crest Vintage, has spent three decades hand selecting each piece to add to her amazing collection of vintage bridal wear for both the traditional and non traditional bride, so she really knows about the potpourri of styles out there — from vintage to new — that do a body good! She has an amazing eye for detail and a great passion for finding what makes a woman feel the most beautiful on her wedding day. Offering personal and private bridal consultations in her Lambertville, New Jersey bridal salon, Paula has had the opportunity to work with hundreds of brides, gaining both experience and expertise in what goes into selecting a vintage wedding dresses and vintage bridesmaid dresses.

So the big day is almost here and you are now on the hunt for your wedding dress. You’ve scoured the magazines, surfed the web, and perhaps even taken pen to paper with your own designs in mind. Still, you have yet to find the dress that balances your (since you were 12 years old with a towel on your head running around the house singing “Here Comes The Bride”) dress of your dreams expectations, with the reality of your figure. While some very lucky gals out there can truly wear just about anything, the other 99% of us didn’t quite get the luck of the draw. Truth be told, it is not the size that matters (insert joke here) but instead, the shape. Yes lovelies, no matter what the scale says, figuring out one’s shape is much more important than one’s actual size. I hear ya! It’s about time someone finally focused on something other than the scale.

Seriously though, there is a good reason for all of this “figure out your figure” talk. The idea is to create the illusion of balance between the shoulder and the hip. Truthfully, this should be the ultimate goal for any woman when considering any dress. By determining one’s shape, a woman can determine which style of dress will balance out her figure best.

Here’s what we’re analyzing: pears, apples and squashes (yes, evidently squash is a fruit. Who knew?)

Ok, doll, time to get in front of a mirror and give yourself a good once over. Ask yourself: Am I shaped more like a pear (wider at the bottom than on the top)? How about an apple shape (wider in the middle than on top or bottom)? Perhaps I am shaped more like a squash (hourglass shaped)? Determining which fruit you most resemble will be the biggest and most important step in choosing the perfect dress.

For you pear shaped gals, stick with A-line dresses, as well as, halter style dresses. A-line dresses look great on the pear shaped figure because the A-line dress is narrow at the top and flares gently at the base thus, drawing attention to the upper body, shoulders, and neck while disguising the wider hips and thighs. The halter top style dresses look great on a pear shaped body, too, especially because the desire is to flatter the bust and draw attention away from the problem area (the wider hip). Choose a halter style dress that nips in at the waist, and flares out into a wider skirt. Dresses with thin straps or one-asymmetrical shoulder also look great on the pear shaped figure. This allows the dress to drape over the body in such a way that the shoulder line and hip become more symmetrical with one another. Using detail at the shoulders and/or at the bust line helps to further balance the hip-to-shoulder ratio, giving the illusion of a minimized hip and a more hourglass shape.

For all the pears out there: There are also a few what-not-to-do recommendations. Considering the two styles of dresses recommended, pear shaped women should still avoid busy patterns and embellishments throughout the entire dress and instead opt for embellishments only in the bodice. Beads, ribbons, ruffles, and other decorations on the bust of a form fitting bodice should be chosen over embellishments in the skirt. Avoid tops that have narrow v-necks, heavily-gathered necklines, dolman sleeves and raglan sleeves, which can all reduce the width of your shoulders.

Ok apples, you’re up! For our yummy apple figured gals, empire waistlines are highly recommended. An empire dress in the right material works well to elongate the body, drawing attention away from the midsection, while still managing to show off the good curves. This style narrows at the top and flares slightly as it cascades toward the bottom, which is why it is flattering for apple figures. Choose a material like cotton or cotton blends, which will skim the body’s silhouette, and go for monochromatic color schemes. The illusion of the empire waist line enhances the curves of the bust and hip in such a way that balance is achieved, while the proper draping and the monochromatic color scheme offer a streamlined effect.

As we discussed, the benefit of an empire style dress for apple shaped figures is that it camouflages the midsection offering a slimming effect. However, there are a few things to avoid, such as ruffled shoulders or shoulders with padding. Do not wear dresses that feature a lot of busy detail especially near the waist, like ruffles, ruching, or other embellishments. This calls attention to the midsection, which is the area apple shapes usually try to minimize focus. Also, avoid any rounded flower corsages and instead opt for a corsage with cascading effects.

Finally we have arrived at our squashed shaped ladies. Apologies for referring to this sort of shape as a squash, but it is truly the only hourglass shaped fruit we could find. Hey, squash could have been easily swapped for gourd. But no woman I know would like to be referred to as a gourd. Moving on… As you may have guessed, women with ample bosoms and hips to match are considered hourglass shaped, like a squash. For this figure type, we recommend going with an A-line dress or a wrap dress, as long as the fabric drapes over the curves of the body without cinching or hugging. The idea is not exactly to reduce size, but instead to enhance the curves and achieve overall balance. These two styles of dress work best for this figure type because both of them cinch at the waist, while revealing the already balanced ratio between bust and hip. In other words, these two styles of dress complement the curves of the curvy hourglass shaped woman. For more full figured hourglass shaped gals, we also recommend V-cut necklines and some sleeve, even if only capped, to conceal any spill over from the bust.

Some don’ts for our beautiful squashes include dresses with a straight style and sleeveless dresses. Also, as some of us know, larger arms sometimes accompany a larger bust-line. Adornments and embellishments are fine, but avoid any at the arms, because too much “bling” at the arm can add width and throw off the balance of the body. On a side note, please be sure to wear a proper-fitting plus-size bra that gives the breasts optimal support when wearing any style.

Follow these guidelines and your Jewish wedding will star a beautiful bride in the most perfect dress!

So there it is in nutshell (wait… nuts?). Sorry. There it is in a fruit bowl: The fruity approach to wedding dress shopping.