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Since jewelry can accentuate an already stunning dress and bride, picking your bridal jewelry can be almost as nerve racking as picking your dress, but it doesn’t have to be! Zoara Jewelry is here to help!

Bridal jewelry should be fun and express your personal style. Below are a few tips and tricks to help pick the perfect accessories for your special day!

Keep Your Dress in Mind
You have no doubt spent weeks or even months shopping for your dress, it is important to pair it with jewelry that complements or adds to the dress. It is important to keep the style and silhouette of your dress in mind when shopping for jewelry. What is the neckline of your dress? Does your dress have long sleeves? Does your dress have beading or applique? All these things will factor into what jewelry and accessories are appropriate or complementary. The length of the necklace and the neckline of your dress must go hand in hand. Long sleeves can affect the way a bracelet looks or lays against the wrist so your dress will dictate your bracelet wearability.

If your dress features beading, pearls or crystals, keep the shape, color, and design in mind. Many brides find it helpful to shop with a photo of their dress or its details so that there’s a visual assist in finding complementary designs. You don’t necessarily want the jewelry to be an exact match with the dress’s details. You don’t want them to clash either. Unless the dress is very, very plan with little to no detail, the jewelry should probably be much quieter than the dress. They should not both be shouting for attention .

Keeping it Classic
Many brides keep their bridal jewelry classic and simple. From a strand of pearls to simple diamond studs not only do these items look beautiful they also make for sentimental heirlooms to be passed down for generations to come.

Noting this, you may want to shop in your mom’s or grandma’s jewelry boxes! They may have some gorgeous, timeless pieces that will go great with your dress and the special meaning of them belonging to women in your family makes them that much more beautiful. Don’t be afraid to start the tradition yourself, though. Feel free to purchase pieces that you think you’d like to pass on to future daughters or nieces one day.

Adding a Splash of Color
Today many brides choose to add a splash of color to their bridal jewelry. Of course there is the tradition of wearing something blue on your wedding day, so blue options would fit nicely. However, more and more brides are also choosing to incorporate their color themes into their jewelry ensemble. Beautiful gemstone jewelry is a great way to express your originality and tie your wedding colors into your total look.

A really beautiful and bold pair of earrings will add dynamite style to your bridal look and they’ll show up in all the pictures since they’re so close to your face! It the color can match the hues from your bouquet, that would really help to thread the color scheme together.

Most Importantly Have FUN!
Remember it is YOUR special day! Choose the items that make you happy. While planning your wedding, everyone is going to want to give you their two cents (whether you ask for it or not). Be sure the items you pick are not only comfortable to wear, but reflect your personal style. Every time you wear your jewelry you will be reminded of your special day.

For more ideas and styles of Zoara Diamonds, Pearl and Gemstone Zoara Jewelry for your wedding visit www.zoara.com today.

Layered pearls for a chunky look are great for a dress with minimal detail on top. Photo by: David Michael Photography

This unique sheer, V neckline requires no necklace! Photo by: Chelo Keys Photography

A delicate necklace works here because the neckline is also soft and there’s mirroring detail on the dress. Photo by: Chelo Keys Photography

Who Should Hold The Wedding Rings?

Sometimes it’s helpful to be a Facebook addict. A while back, a friend of mine, Lauren, who has been a contributor to Tales from the Veil, posted a status that said she was unsure who should hold the rings during the wedding. Good question! Got me thinking that this question is a common one (I remember asking it while planning my own wedding) and it would be helpful to address it here on The Wedding Yentas. So don’t put yourself through the ringer and stress about the official ring holders! Here’s some food for thought.


(Photo by Beth Kesier Photography)

Pockets. It’s all about pockets. You may have cute little ring bearers, but don’t kid yourself that some kid is going to take ownership of the actual (and, ahem, expensive) rings. So who’s another candidate for possessing the rings? Pick a groomsman; most likely one will have pockets. And hopefully at least one will not be too hungover from the rehearsal dinner the night before. So, pick a responsible groomsman with pockets!

Does this designated groomsman only hold the groom’s ring? Well, unless an equally-responsible bridesmaid also has pockets, both bride and groom rings should probably go to the groomsman. If you are keeping Jewish tradition and accepting a ring that’s not adorned and solid all the way around for the ceremony, don’t forget to give this ring to the Heroic Groomsman as well. Essentially, he’ll be carrying three rings! Yes, so make sure his pockets are deep. And responsible.

After you’ve exchanged your traditional rings, you may want to put on your non-traditional wedding band after the ceremony. That’s what I did and it worked like a charm. I couldn’t wait to skip away from the chuppah and finally wear the diamond band our best man had in his pocket. Like a moth to the flame went my ring to my finger. Ah yes, that’s it. Right there. Hits the spot.


(Photo by Luster Studios)

Once the pretty “every day ring” met its two new neighbors — the engagement ring and my finger — I removed the solid gold band that was used for symbolic purposes during the ceremony and gave it to the best man. So, make sure the groomsman you choose remains responsible (if just for a short while!) after the ceremony so that he can put the traditional ring somewhere safe that was agreed upon prior to the day’s hoopla. Once that open bar is ready for action, no groomsman — no matter how responsible! — can be trusted. So, the traditional ring needs to make it back to a secure home (bridal room, a purse under a chair, the wedding coordinator, etc.).

Bottomline: Just find someone you can count on, will be near the chuppah during the ceremony, and who has the ability to store and transport your bling. Groomsman or grandpa, it doesn’t really matter. Just make sure that in the midst of planning your centerpiece decor and must-have music playlist, you consider this easily-forgotten detail and put a plan in motion. Once you know how to handle the rings, you’re one step closer to ringing in your new, married life!

From the Expert: The Fruity Approach to Your Wedding Dress Selection

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It’s so exciting to have an expert in the house! When it comes to dresses, Mill Crest Vintage knows their stuff! Personally, I’ve always loved antiques and historical items. I may not be a mathematician (when I hear “pi” I think pumpkin and apple), but I do know this: vintage styles + wedding = gorgeous! Today, Mill Crest Vintage is on board to tell us all about which kinds of dresses should go on various body types. Paula Cooperman, owner of Mill Crest Vintage, has spent three decades hand selecting each piece to add to her amazing collection of vintage bridal wear for both the traditional and non traditional bride, so she really knows about the potpourri of styles out there — from vintage to new — that do a body good! She has an amazing eye for detail and a great passion for finding what makes a woman feel the most beautiful on her wedding day. Offering personal and private bridal consultations in her Lambertville, New Jersey bridal salon, Paula has had the opportunity to work with hundreds of brides, gaining both experience and expertise in what goes into selecting a vintage wedding dresses and vintage bridesmaid dresses.

So the big day is almost here and you are now on the hunt for your wedding dress. You’ve scoured the magazines, surfed the web, and perhaps even taken pen to paper with your own designs in mind. Still, you have yet to find the dress that balances your (since you were 12 years old with a towel on your head running around the house singing “Here Comes The Bride”) dress of your dreams expectations, with the reality of your figure. While some very lucky gals out there can truly wear just about anything, the other 99% of us didn’t quite get the luck of the draw. Truth be told, it is not the size that matters (insert joke here) but instead, the shape. Yes lovelies, no matter what the scale says, figuring out one’s shape is much more important than one’s actual size. I hear ya! It’s about time someone finally focused on something other than the scale.

Seriously though, there is a good reason for all of this “figure out your figure” talk. The idea is to create the illusion of balance between the shoulder and the hip. Truthfully, this should be the ultimate goal for any woman when considering any dress. By determining one’s shape, a woman can determine which style of dress will balance out her figure best.

Here’s what we’re analyzing: pears, apples and squashes (yes, evidently squash is a fruit. Who knew?)

Ok, doll, time to get in front of a mirror and give yourself a good once over. Ask yourself: Am I shaped more like a pear (wider at the bottom than on the top)? How about an apple shape (wider in the middle than on top or bottom)? Perhaps I am shaped more like a squash (hourglass shaped)? Determining which fruit you most resemble will be the biggest and most important step in choosing the perfect dress.

For you pear shaped gals, stick with A-line dresses, as well as, halter style dresses. A-line dresses look great on the pear shaped figure because the A-line dress is narrow at the top and flares gently at the base thus, drawing attention to the upper body, shoulders, and neck while disguising the wider hips and thighs. The halter top style dresses look great on a pear shaped body, too, especially because the desire is to flatter the bust and draw attention away from the problem area (the wider hip). Choose a halter style dress that nips in at the waist, and flares out into a wider skirt. Dresses with thin straps or one-asymmetrical shoulder also look great on the pear shaped figure. This allows the dress to drape over the body in such a way that the shoulder line and hip become more symmetrical with one another. Using detail at the shoulders and/or at the bust line helps to further balance the hip-to-shoulder ratio, giving the illusion of a minimized hip and a more hourglass shape.

For all the pears out there: There are also a few what-not-to-do recommendations. Considering the two styles of dresses recommended, pear shaped women should still avoid busy patterns and embellishments throughout the entire dress and instead opt for embellishments only in the bodice. Beads, ribbons, ruffles, and other decorations on the bust of a form fitting bodice should be chosen over embellishments in the skirt. Avoid tops that have narrow v-necks, heavily-gathered necklines, dolman sleeves and raglan sleeves, which can all reduce the width of your shoulders.

Ok apples, you’re up! For our yummy apple figured gals, empire waistlines are highly recommended. An empire dress in the right material works well to elongate the body, drawing attention away from the midsection, while still managing to show off the good curves. This style narrows at the top and flares slightly as it cascades toward the bottom, which is why it is flattering for apple figures. Choose a material like cotton or cotton blends, which will skim the body’s silhouette, and go for monochromatic color schemes. The illusion of the empire waist line enhances the curves of the bust and hip in such a way that balance is achieved, while the proper draping and the monochromatic color scheme offer a streamlined effect.

As we discussed, the benefit of an empire style dress for apple shaped figures is that it camouflages the midsection offering a slimming effect. However, there are a few things to avoid, such as ruffled shoulders or shoulders with padding. Do not wear dresses that feature a lot of busy detail especially near the waist, like ruffles, ruching, or other embellishments. This calls attention to the midsection, which is the area apple shapes usually try to minimize focus. Also, avoid any rounded flower corsages and instead opt for a corsage with cascading effects.

Finally we have arrived at our squashed shaped ladies. Apologies for referring to this sort of shape as a squash, but it is truly the only hourglass shaped fruit we could find. Hey, squash could have been easily swapped for gourd. But no woman I know would like to be referred to as a gourd. Moving on… As you may have guessed, women with ample bosoms and hips to match are considered hourglass shaped, like a squash. For this figure type, we recommend going with an A-line dress or a wrap dress, as long as the fabric drapes over the curves of the body without cinching or hugging. The idea is not exactly to reduce size, but instead to enhance the curves and achieve overall balance. These two styles of dress work best for this figure type because both of them cinch at the waist, while revealing the already balanced ratio between bust and hip. In other words, these two styles of dress complement the curves of the curvy hourglass shaped woman. For more full figured hourglass shaped gals, we also recommend V-cut necklines and some sleeve, even if only capped, to conceal any spill over from the bust.

Some don’ts for our beautiful squashes include dresses with a straight style and sleeveless dresses. Also, as some of us know, larger arms sometimes accompany a larger bust-line. Adornments and embellishments are fine, but avoid any at the arms, because too much “bling” at the arm can add width and throw off the balance of the body. On a side note, please be sure to wear a proper-fitting plus-size bra that gives the breasts optimal support when wearing any style.

Follow these guidelines and your Jewish wedding will star a beautiful bride in the most perfect dress!

So there it is in nutshell (wait… nuts?). Sorry. There it is in a fruit bowl: The fruity approach to wedding dress shopping.

From The Expert: The Celebrationista Guides The Bride on Wedding Shower Etiquette and Questions

********** GIVEAWAY GOING ON NOW THROUGH JULY 2nd!!! ***********

Don’t forget your chance to enter to win! Clay Bouquet is giving away a $25 gift certificate to her store! Just check out Clay Bouquet‘s shop and report back by leaving a comment here and sharing what you would choose if you won the prize!

Entries will be accepted through Monday, July 2nd at 11:59 p.m. PST. Winner is selected at random and announced on Facebook on July 3rd. Good luck!

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Roni Borenstein of Celebrationista Events is a professional bridal shower and bachelorette party coordinator and your expert source for all pre-wedding planning! Roni is originally from Long Island, NY and now lives in Manhattan. While earning her Masters in Social Work from Columbia University, she began planning bridal showers and bachelorette parties for close friends who were getting married. After realizing her passion for event planning and a knack for putting together flawless celebrations, she began to transition from the field of social work into party planning. Her extensive experience includes planning bachelorette parties all over the country, birthday soirees for clients of every age from 25 to 90, baby showers, and bridal showers. She is a pre-wedding party guru whose creativity and skills ensure that each affair reflects the bride being honored. Combining budget-friendly event design with DIY extras, she can create a memorable shindig from start to finish. Roni prides herself in great attention to detail and up-to-date industry expertise. For more tips, photos, inspiration, and planning updates follow/contact her on Pinterest, Facebook, Twitter, and her blog!

Today, I’m here to help the bride who may have some bridal shower anxiety. Some brides feel super comfortable in the spotlight or don’t even think twice about the plans surrounding their other big day (the BIG big day is, of course, the wedding day). But when it comes to etiquette questions or causes for concern, hopefully this little guide helps you feel more at ease as you are showered with love!

Q: Should I put my registry information on the invitations?
A: Some brides do and some don’t. If there are a bunch of items still left on your registry that you want, then it’s the perfect opportunity. On the other hand many brides prefer to receive items like lingerie, jewelry, and other keepsakes that wouldn’t be on the wedding registry. Some guests usually like to get something that will surprise the bride rather than a kitchen item off the registry. Others like to know that they are satisfying the dream list that the couple has put together. If people want to order off the registry and they lose the invitation, they should easily be able to find your registry online. On weddingchannel.com you can merge all your registries and make them searchable so guests can access everything you register for. Since registry information should never be on the actual formal wedding invitation, the shower invitation or the wedding web site are two places that guests can learn about your selected stores.

Q: Is it okay to have two showers?
A: Many people do. If you have a lot of guests in NYC but you’re from Chicago, you may choose to do one in each city so all your close friends and family can come without having to travel twice (for the shower and the wedding). It’s not unheard of for coworkers to throw a separate office shower for the bride, but keep in mind that everyone in your office probably won’t be getting an invite to the wedding. If they still insist on throwing you one, just be clear that there are no expectations for the nuptials. Other factors like having divorced parents might force you to have two showers in order to satisfy two separate families. Really, there’s no rule against having more than one shower. If your bridesmaids are involved with more than one shower, just keep in mind how much you’re asking your bridesmaids to spend and do. Make one event more of a casual get-together or Jack and Jill shower. If you’re at the other extreme and really hate the limelight you may want to combine the shower and bachelorette party. Only if you’re positive you won’t regret skipping the traditional shower, combining the two is a great alternative. Spend the day with just close friends or bridesmaids by going to a spa or taking a cooking class after a small brunch or before dinner. You can still incorporate favors and mementos for whoever comes, and receive thoughtful gifts from the girls without everyone watching!

Q: Do I have to have assigned seating?
A: Yes. Think about it: your guest list includes relatives from both sides, college friends, coworkers, family friends and your oldest pals. Without a seating plan, you risk having your sorority sisters and the groom’s great-aunt Ruth sitting next to each other. No matter how small or casual your shower is, it’s still necessary to ensure your guests aren’t uncomfortable. Luckily there are so many options and whether you use escort cards or place cards, they can double up as favors.

Q: Do I have to open my gifts at the shower?
A: To open or not to open? That is the question. Many brides don’t feel comfortable being in the spotlight. While some guests look forward to seeing the bride’s face when she opens their present, a disorganized gift opening can be long, boring, and dreadful. The bridesmaids are crucial here. If you are shy and can’t stand the idea of so much pressure, have the guests keep busy by intertwining an activity during this time. You can even request that guests wrap gifts in clear cellophane so all you have to do is acknowledge each one with a big smile. Of course, some brides decide to skip the gift opening all together and show their appreciation with a personal thank you card to everyone (which you will do either way). It depends on your personal preference and no rule is set in stone.

Q: How involved should I be in planning the shower?
A: Take it easy. You will want to make the guest list and ensure no one is left out, but other than that you’re off the hook for this one. If you believe your bridesmaids or family members are not up for the task of planning your dream shower, you can get involved in some of the details. It’s different for every situation, but always make sure to thank your mom (or other hostesses) and bridesmaids at the shower. Stand up and make a toast thanking everyone for coming and let them know you appreciate their hard work.

Q: How do I deal with my fiancé’s mom who wants to invite all of her friends but isn’t chipping in?
A: This is a tough one, especially because it’s a shame for the families to have bad blood over the shower right before the big day approaches. The answer depends on how big your shower is and how many people the venue can fit. If your mom isn’t inviting many of her friends, simply say that the shower is just for family and your friends. You should always invite the groom’s family even if you’ve never met them. You don’t want to be outnumbered by women you don’t even know, but it could be good practice for your wedding day. On the other hand, if it’s a big party and she wants her closest friends there, try to have the mothers come to a compromise. If you are having a rehearsal dinner hosted by his side, are you allowed to invite all your guests? Is it possible to have a separate shower for only his side thrown by his side? These are some individual considerations you must make depending on your situation. These kinds of politics can be tricky, but honest and clear conversations can help define who should be invited to these important events like showers.

Bottom Line: Bridal shower “rules” and expectations are out there for brides to use as guidelines for planning but needn’t be followed strictly. The whole point is to shower you with love, good wishes, gifts, and advice, not to make you uncomfortable. It’s truly all about you! If you find yourself in a dilemma there are always alternatives to tweak your shower to fit your life and personality.

From The Expert: The Celebrationista Proposes Shower Ideas for Bridesmaids

********** GIVEAWAY GOING ON NOW THROUGH JULY 2nd!!! ***********

Don’t forget your chance to enter to win! Clay Bouquet is giving away a $25 gift certificate to her store! Just check out Clay Bouquet‘s shop and report back by leaving a comment here and sharing what you would choose if you won the prize!

Entries will be accepted through Monday, July 2nd at 11:59 p.m. PST. Winner is selected at random and announced on Facebook on July 3rd. Good luck!

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Roni Borenstein of Celebrationista Events is a professional bridal shower and bachelorette party coordinator and your expert source for all pre-wedding planning! Roni is originally from Long Island, NY and now lives in Manhattan. While earning her Masters in Social Work from Columbia University, she began planning bridal showers and bachelorette parties for close friends who were getting married. After realizing her passion for event planning and a knack for putting together flawless celebrations, she began to transition from the field of social work into party planning. Her extensive experience includes planning bachelorette parties all over the country, birthday soirees for clients of every age from 25 to 90, baby showers, and bridal showers. She is a pre-wedding party guru whose creativity and skills ensure that each affair reflects the bride being honored. Combining budget-friendly event design with DIY extras, she can create a memorable shindig from start to finish. Roni prides herself in great attention to detail and up-to-date industry expertise. For more tips, photos, inspiration, and planning updates follow/contact her on Pinterest, Facebook, Twitter, and her blog!

Bridesmaids Get Busy
Bridal showers came about many moons ago as a way for the betrothed to receive all necessary items for the newlywed home to provide for her husband. The bride-to-be was showered with household items that could prepare her for her new role as a wife. Although we still give kitchen items and registry gifts to the bride at her shower, modern-day brides are often a little older and living away from home before they’re engaged. Also, the “wife” role has changed from the time bridal showers began, and so have the traditions.

Bridesmaids: depending on the situation you may or may not be responsible for hosting or paying for the shower, but structuring the event is in your hands. The activities and presentations you organize at the shower are what really make it exceptional. Delegating and Do-It-Yourself are the two D’s to live by here.

You won’t be able to throw things together at the last minute so get the conversation going early and listen to everyone’s ideas. Before the invitations go out you should set up a maids meeting for the girls who are close and able to attend because no matter how busy everyone is, you need to be on the same page. Expect to have email chains that seem endless when trying to plan each detail, and if the maid of honor is a little sister who has never been to a shower, it’s okay for another girl to help her out and take charge; someone has to.

Picking two or three activities should be enough. No matter what, make sure to keep the bride in mind. For example, if she hates pictures of herself don’t do a video montage and if she gets embarrassed easily don’t do a lingerie line.

Some ideas I love that have proven successful:

  • The Scrapbook (my personal favorite) — Get the guest list in advance and mail out blank scrapbook page refills like these from a craft store to all the bride’s friends. Ask people to make a collage of pictures, stickers, poems, inside jokes, or other memories and bring it to the shower. Anyone who can’t attend can still mail it back and participate. Assemble the scrapbook there and present it to her and pass it around.
  • Notes of Advice — Have “notes of advice” and some pens at each table and then put them all in a personalized box. If you think the advice cards are too played out, ask guests to write where they think the couple will be in 10 years from now. After you collect them have her read some out loud.
  • Recipes/Baking Basket — Send out blank recipe cards with the invitations and collect them at the shower. Put them in a personalized recipe box and throw in other kitchen supplies like an apron, personalized spatulas, cookie cutters, measuring spoons, and a wedding cupcake kit. If you want a book instead of cards, tastebook.com is a really cool way to collect recipes from everyone and have them professionally printed before the shower. Anyone can do it online and add pictures and a note to the bride, plus the bride has the option of adding to the book later on by ordering recipes or printing her own from the website. If you want to DIY and cut costs, collect recipes and some pictures from just the bridesmaids and have one girl put the book together.
  • Wine for Each Milestone — Have each bridesmaid decorate a bottle of wine, Champagne, or other liquor for future milestones in the couple’s married life.

If the bridesmaids want to present the bride with their own gift that’s thoughtful and entertaining, consider this:

  • Honeymoon Kit — Give her “just married” flip flops, monogrammed travel cosmetic bags, passport covers, and luggage tags for the honeymoon. If you know where she’s going get some travel books for the location and put it all in a monogrammed beach tote with cute travel toiletries and snacks for the plane. For a friend who was going to Hawaii, we all wore leis when she opened it at the shower.
  • Lingerie Line — Have each bridesmaid buy a negligee or lacy thongs for future occasions and then to end on a fantastic laugh, the final presentation should be giant granny panties! Great for a bride and guests who have a sharp sense of humor!