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Ask The Yentas – What To Do With Your Dress

As you all know by now, Yentas are big time schmoozers! When it comes to weddings, there’s just so much to talk about! So, if you want to shmooze, The Wedding Yentas always shmooze back. Readers email with wedding questions for reliable and been-there-done-that information and feedback. Some of these questions haven’t been addressed in blog posts yet, but have become inspirations to create the topic in order to provide answers.

Reader Alexandra asks: “Hey there Wedding Yentas: I figured you might be a good person to ask about this. Do you know of a great place/organization to donate your wedding dress to? As much as I don’t want to give it up, I will never wear it again, and the odds that A). I have a daughter, and B). she’ll be able/want to wear it are slim. Let me know if you have any ideas.”

Hi Alexandra,

You have come to the right place. There are plenty of answers for you!

1. You can sell the dress here: Preownedweddingdresses.com is a good site that allows you to have control of the sale and is a safer bet than eBay since you are targeting your exact market: brides looking for wedding gowns.

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2. If you want to donate your gown, there’s also Brides Against Breast Cancer. You ship it to a center and then they tour the gowns in different cities where people buy them and proceeds go to battling breast cancer.

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3. Trash your dress! I know what you are going to say: “Yentas, I can’t trash my dress! Are you guys OUT. OF. YOUR. MINDS?” Well, quite possibly, but that’s for another day and time. Of course you can trash your dress. It doesn’t have to be the kind where you throw it in the garbage, but the photography movement of modeling your dress for non traditional photos. Ask your photographer about a “Trash the Dress” session or search on Google and get ready to feast your eyes on beautiful images of brides laying in the ocean, playing in the sand, covered in mud, or baking brownies! This type of session can also be referred to as a “Day After Session” and you don’t really have to trash your dress! It’s just another opportunity to wear your dress and take beautiful photos you might not have had the chance to take on your wedding day!

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4. Cut off a piece of your dress so that your future daughter or granddaughter can incorporate some of it on her wedding day. Whether she uses the fabric as part of her dress or as a bouquet wrapper can be her decision. Then donate your dress to Brides Against Breast Cancer or the Salvation Army.

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5.Redo it. Old new borrowed redo is a company run by three sisters who take worn dresses (wedding dresses, bridesmaids dresses, prom dresses — whatever! They even take old t-shirts!) and redo them to create something else. Your wedding gown can become your new throw pillows on your bed or a doll’s dress for your daughter. The options are pretty much endless and the sisters love working with you to customize your old/new product into something redone that you will love. Check ’em out on Facebook, too, to find out what new projects are in the works.

6. Last but not least…keep it. In the event that your daughter or granddaughter might want to wear it. Get your dress dry-cleaned and preserved. Wedding Gown Specialists, who have locations all over the country, preserve and box up your dress so it’s ready to store away in a safe place for many years to come. The bride below wore her mother’s wedding dress and it looked beautiful!

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We hope we have given you lots of ideas for what to do with your dress once your wedding is over. At the end of the day it is a totally personal decision, but just know there are lots of great options available.

Pass Me The Pashmina

Your bridesmaids and female guests may come to your wedding dressed to the nines, but what about chilly outdoor ceremonies or cocktail hours? It’s likely that your lady friends may not bring a coat or wrap that also matches their dresses, so help a sista out. You can provide practical, color-coordinating, and good-looking pashminas (or knock offs!) for those bare-shouldered babes.

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You can stack them in baskets in the ceremony area. Create a cute sign that says something like “Wrap Yourself Up In Love” and display them so your gal guests see them. You can get pretty prints that complement your wedding colors or get one or two solid colors that match your theme. Typically, darker wraps seem more formal, but most colors will look great at beach and garden weddings.

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Including pashminas in your bridesmaids’ gift bags is thoughtful and helpful for the wedding day. They may decide to wear them under the chuppah to stay warm, and we think that’s perfectly acceptable. Having this extra accessory offers your photographer different ideas for group photos, too. Wearing a few different looks makes the photos more exciting and provides you more options when it comes to selecting shots for your album. So, consider wearing them for photos… and then not wearing them for photos! It’s fun to switch it up.

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Don’t forget to pamper yourself, too! Just because you’re the bride doesn’t mean you have to freeze. Whether you’re mingling outside during cocktail hour or you escape with your new hubster for a yichud (time alone after the ceremony), you might be shilly. Grab a pashmina and enjoy the warmth. You can match the pashmina to your dress or wear a wedding color to stand out. Either way, you can’t go wrong because the bride is the best looking lady on the wedding day!

Now, where to get the pashminas? You can easily find them online for purchase with a quick, simple Google search. But, if you can get to a China Town in a metropolis near you, you’ll find a plethora of stores that offer pashminas in all kinds of colors, prints, and textures for super low prices. We’ve heard of Boston, New York, Los Angeles, San Fancisco, and D.C. area brides having luck at stores in those cities’ China Towns. Flea markets and swap meats usually have pashmina vendors also, so it definitely pays to look around.

With a little research and a coordinating plan, you can add a splash of color and stylish comfort to your guests’ wedding day experience. Don’t pash up your opportunity to include pashminas in your wedding day!

Love As Sweet As Candy

The Wedding Yentas recently had a chit-chat with Jackie Sorkin of Custom Candy Buffets and Dessert Bars and just like the treats she provides, this top-notch wedding pro was sweet and fun, and we’re excited to share our exchange here! Jackie has sweetened up some of the biggest wedding events in history and also provides buffets for corporate functions and celebrities! We’ve all seen the candy buffet trend explode all over the wedding circuit that keeps guests excited to party hard at your reception. Sugar will do that to you! So keep on reading to learn just how to make sure your confections at your soiree are as sweet as your kisses under the chuppah!

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The Wedding Yentas: Welcome to The Wedding Yentas, Jackie! Tell us about how you got your start in the business.

Custom Candy Buffets: I love things that are pretty and candy certainly is that! I began creating custom candy creations for clients’ events and they were received so well that I thought, “There is something to this candy thing.” Then I began doing more and more event shows and expos and, since I am so competitive, I wanted all the attendees at my booth chatting with me and giving me the opportunity to earn their businesses! So, I created some really great Custom Candy Buffet Bars and just like that, I won! My booths were always swamped with guests and people flipped for my candy.

TWY: So, candy buffets started to pop up around wedding receptions about three years ago. Is this trend still going strong?

CCB: We certainly think this trend will stick around for a long time coming! People have actually been enjoying candy stations for quite sometime now. I remember when I attended Bat & Bar Mitzvahs many moons ago the candy station was always a huge hit with the kids, but even more so with the adults! Now you see them at all types of events from weddings to corporate events and they are great for marketing promotions, too.

TWY: There’s enough food and sweets at a typical wedding reception. Between the hors d’oeuvres, entrees, wedding cake, and of course that open bar, why should a bride and groom choose to also have a candy bar at their wedding?

CCB: Weddings are a fantastic place for a candy buffet especially when the bride and groom would like guests to give something to take away with them. Candy buffets also are a super fun DIY favor, a great conversation piece, and can enhance the events’ decor, often adding a fun, whimsical touch.

TWY: So what’s the best way to set up a candy buffet? Do you start with your color palette? And obviously, the whole set up has to look great. Almost as great as the bride, right?

CCB: The bride always outshines every person, place, and thing on her wedding day! We like to start with design consultations, or as we call them, candy consults. We create inspiration boards and discuss theme and color schemes as well.

TWY: Is there such thing as too much? What’s the perfect amount of candy for a guest list of, say, 200 people?

CCB: This is such a popular question and we simply say, Go Big! More is always merrier when it comes to candy! For 200 guests, a nice variety is encouraged and of course the type of candy you will have will always depend on the color scheme you select.

TWY: What else besides candy do you need for a successful candy buffet?

CCB: Great Decor!

TWY: Brides normally do a DIY candy bar. How should they shop for the candy selections?

CCB: To each her own. As they say, “there are no rules in Candy Land.” Every budget is different, too, so determining how much you’d like to spend on your candy buffet will also determine the types of candy you purchase.

TWY: Is there a must-have candy that belongs in every wedding candy buffet?

CCB: Gummy candy, sours or chocolate.

TWY: You get around to some of the coolest weddings and events! Tell us about one of your favorite set ups.

CCB: We’ve created some fabulous events for Oprah and her staff at her new network OWN. We created a colorful tropical candy buffet, a vintage circus, and have created some super cute custom candy baskets too! I mean it’s OPRAH and everything she and her staff does is fabulous!

TWY: Speaking of set ups, do couples have to provide their own canisters or do you rent them for the event?

CCB: Our services are all inclusive. Our clients do not have to bother with anything at their event. We make everyone’s life easy! We design, create, set up, maintain the candy buffet, clean up, and pick up once it’s all over.

TWY: I’m sure there are now couples that are craving some sugar at their weddings after reading this! Do you travel? Where do you go? Are you rackin’ up the frequent flyer miles?

CCB: We are nationwide and YES, we fly and ship and do it all!

TWY: What are the hottest and trendiest candies to feature at a candy buffet?

CCB: I find that people flip for sour candy like sour belts, Sour Patch Kids, sour apple rings, etc.

TWY: What are your favorite color schemes or styles?

CCB: I LOVE a fabulous colorful candy buffet — think rainbow colors. It looks fantastic every time!

TWY: What are some candy buffet no-nos?

CCB: Think about the weather. If it’s too hot you should limit the types of candy that will melt, like chocolates and caramels and even some gummy candy will melt with extreme heat. Be careful when selecting containers. Some may look fantastic, but the are not functional so guests will have a hard time trying to reach the candy in the containers. Always keep it clean and sanitary. Our Candy Girls (Attendants) assist guests with selections and keep everything looking fantastic throughout your event.

TWY: Is it good to feature a variety? Is it okay to have some chocolate, some sour, some sugary, some salty? Or, is it better to stick with one kind of taste palette?

CCB: This depends on your candy vision. A variety is always good but some colors are more challenging to source candy for.

TWY: I’m a chocolate girl. I also dig a good gummy animal — worm, bear — I don’t discriminate. What’s your favorite candy?

CCB: Ummm, kind of hard to answer but I’ll say … jelly beans (the old school kind).

TWY: You take out ALL the calories in all your candy bar set ups, right?? RIGHT????? 🙂

CCB: OH YES! We tell our clients, “Our candy makes you skinny, pretty, and popular so eat up!”

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Jackie Sorkin is Hollywood’s resident candy girl and creator of custom candy bars to the stars. But she’s so much more! Jackie is a mom and business woman who is building her candy empire. Jackie and her company, Custom Candy Buffets has a reality show and product lines all in the works. People seem to also enjoy the ridiculous photos of her baby, Bella, The Heiress to the candy empire. Jackie Sorkin loves candy and her little girl, giving a whole new meaning to Sugar Mama.

A Video Speaks A Thousand Words

On Tuesday, Sarah and Zack lit up The Wedding Yentas page with their gorgeous Southern California Real Wedding spread. The photos by Chris Schmitt Photography were absolute perfection, marking all the important moments of a lovely Jewish wedding and showcasing an adorable couple that had love oozing out of each and every pixel of his images.

I will always always always love photography. I think a photographer should be one of the most important vendors you hire and I urge bride friends to go with quality of work instead of quantity of dollars because at the end of the day, the album that sits on your coffee table, the frames on your walls, and, let’s face it, the uploads to your Facebook page are the visual methods of remembering your wedding day.

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Visual methods.

But what about auditory methods? What about ways to hear your vows? Watch your horah? Relive your first kiss as husband and wife? That’s where one of my other favorite vendors comes in, your cinematographer. Ahava Films documented Sarah and Zack’s perfect day with a stunning series of videos. On Tuesday, you saw their trailer, and today, you see their highlights reel.

Highlights reels are the new “thing” that most cinematographers are creating for their wedding couples. Think of them as shorts or abridged videos of the wedding day, hitting all the best and iconic events. They are great for sharing the wedding day with others who don’t want to sit and watch an entire video that shows every chronological moment sans edits. Highlights reels that are uploaded on a video sharing site or blog are perfect for sharing through emails and, well, again, Facebook! In post production, editors will cut appropriate music and provide an artistic style to the final product, not dissimilar from a film you’d see in a theater.

Enjoy Sarah and Zack’s highlights reel and consider hiring a cinematographer like Ahava Films or many of the other fabulous video artists listed on The Wedding Yentas.

Sarah and Zack Short Highlights from Ahava Films on Vimeo.

Venue- Sherwood Country Club
Photographer- Chris Schmitt Photography
Coordinator- Under the Chuppah
Florist- Shirvan Designs
Officiant – Rabbi Ahud Sela
Cake- A Sweet Design Cake Co
Videographer- Ahava Films
Music- DJ FX
Hair Stylist- Union Salon, Veronica Mills

Honeymooning 101

You may as well pack your e-bags and put on your “Just Married” flip flops because we’re about to take you on a tour of honeymoon options and locations. No airline fees, no mini hotel shampoos, and no layovers to your final destination — just your computer, your excitement, and The Yentas! It’s exciting to bring on Runya Simon, a Honeymoon Planning Specialist who is a newlywed herself and is expecting her first baby! You may remember her gorgeous day we featured in Real Weddings! Enjoy!

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Wedding planning can be quite a megillah: so many florists to meet, so many cakes to taste, and many gorgeous gowns to try on! While you are over the moon with excitement and busy hashing out all the details, don’t forget that after you say “I do” and after you dance your little tushie off at your reception, you and your honey will get that much needed alone time and relaxation on your very own vacation made for two: your honeymoon!!

There are many ideas of the derivation of the term “honeymoon,” one of which can be found in the Merriam-Webster dictionary that dates back to 1546: “the idea that the first month of marriage is the sweetest,” and in Hebrew it translates to “yerach d’vash,” or honey month.

With iPhones, Blackberries, computers, and iPads sadly taking over our everyday lives, going on a honeymoon is not only a chance to take the much-awaited trip with your honey and escape work and life’s responsibilities, but it’s also a way to truly unplug from the hustle and bustle and focus on your new life together as husband and wife. It’s also pretty awesome to bask in the glory with all the travel perks that come along with being newlyweds!

Couples always ask me when they should plan and book their “moon” and my answer is always right away. The ring is on your finger, the date and venue have been booked, so start thinking about the type of trip you want to take and when. Most traditional honeymoon locations book up and you want to stay ahead of the game and make sure you get exactly what you are looking for! Depending on the departure date of your honeymoon, be sure to prepare as best you can for the upcoming trip.

This is not just any old vacation; you have many things on your mind and wedding plans that are coming to fruition. So make yourself a checklist and ask these simple questions: Is my passport up to date? Do I need travel shots? Do I have the right wardrobe? Should I pack before or after the wedding? Should I wear my sparkler of a ring, or play it safe with a simple band? Your honeymoon planning should be totally stress-free, so don’t wait until the last minute to plan. Pamper yourself and use an expert honeymoon travel agent, such as myself, to help you with every detail to make this the dreamiest “moon” that’s all about you: the happy couple!

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Honeymoons have evolved over the years and I am here to tell you that it’s 100% acceptable to break the mold! Your “moon” should be special and specific to whatever you want it to be. There are no rules that apply! Traditionally, the couple leaves on their honeymoon the following day or two after the wedding, but this is not necessarily the case anymore. Couples are now carefully taking into consideration where they want to go, what they want out of their “moon” (besides just alone time, wink wink), and what time of year they want to make this sweet trip! Depending on the locale that you choose, you may need to wait a few month. Let’s be honest: if you get married in December/January and your dream honeymoon is a trip to Alaska, it’s probably not the best time to visit the land of glaciers and salmon. Likewise, if your wedding is planned for July and you love the idea of visiting Australia, you probably have forgotten that it’s mid-winter there! It’s okay to wait. You have waited so long to find your soul mate, and have patiently waited for your turn down the aisle, so it’s all right to take your time and plan your perfect honeymoon!

Your honeymoon doesn’t have to be completely paid for out of your own pocket either! Register for memories that will last a lifetime with a honeymoon registry! This is a popular option for couples that would like to add experiences to their gift list: great as a stand-alone registry or to complement a traditional one. A honeymoon registry lets you create a unique gift list of all the parts of your dream vacation, such as the fantasy suite you’ve had your eye on, relaxing massages, romantic dinners, and exciting excursions.

It works perfectly whether or not you know exactly where you want to go because the gifts are virtual and you receive the cash to use when you’re ready, however you like. Deposit a Gift is a perfect option for a honeymoon registry because of how user-friendly it is it is for you and guests: they offer pre-made lists for easy set-up (look for the blue ‘Rapid Registry’ button!), accept credit cards, and even offer a customer service number in case granny gets fermished.

Here’s how it works:

  • Users make gift registries just like people do with a traditional store registry, using a database of images or by clicking on a pre-made list.
  • Guests choose a gift to purchase, finding the right price point for their budget. They are not actually buying the present, but it feels more personal than sending a check. The money gets deposited into the recipient’s Deposit a Gift account.
  • When users are ready to spend the money, they cash-out in the form of check, VISA gift card or direct deposit.

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My husband and I got married in the month of March, yet we dreamed of a Greek/Mediterranean honeymoon, but we soon found that our “moon” would have to wait until June in order to have optimal weather and other tourism factors, so three months later, still newlyweds, we embarked on a wonderful Mediterranean Cruise adventure which we will never forget. Two days after the wedding we were lucky enough to escape to Maui for just a few relaxing days in paradise to unwind and enjoy our “Just Married” status (Brides, I know you want to wear your Mrs. ____ Juicy track suit on the plane!). If you choose this postponed honeymoon, you can always get away for a night, use air miles to go somewhere not too far from home, or drive to some romantic location for a few nights, all while your official honeymoon awaits you! If you are a traditionalist and must go on your honeymoon the day or two following your wedding — you go girl (and guy)! When and where you plan to celebrate the sweetness of your new nuptials doesn’t matter as long as you’re both happy. Whether it’s on a white sandy beach in paradise, or amongs lions and tigers on an African safari, you will be snuggled close with your beshert!

Honeymooning with your honey will be the icing on the cake, the cat’s meow and the bee’s knees! Saying “I do” is just the start to the many adventures you will have together, so don’t let your honeymoon be just an afterthought! This trip marks the newlywed phase of marriage and should you have a little too much fun “honeymooning,” you will soon need to book a Babymoon — but that is a whole other type of trip that we can discuss when the time is right!

Mazel tov and happy travels!

Runya Simon is a Honeymoon and Wedding Travel Specialist. Just like a wedding coordinator helps your wedding dreams come true, she assists you with every step of planning and booking the “moon” of your dreams. Runya is based in Los Angeles, but can help jet-setting brides and grooms everywhere. Her vast knowledge and passion for travel make her your ideal honeymoon coordinator. You can email her with questions and reservations at runya.simon@gmail.com. Runya is looking forward to hearing from you! Enjoy the rest of your planning!