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Wedding Dress Shopping: A Fruity Approach

From-The-Expert

It’s so exciting to have an expert in the house! When it comes to dresses, Mill Crest Vintage knows their stuff! Personally, I’ve always loved antiques and historical items. I may not be a mathematician (when I hear “pi” I think pumpkin and apple), but I do know this: vintage styles + wedding = gorgeous! Today, Mill Crest Vintage is on board to tell us all about which kinds of dresses should go on various body types. Paula Cooperman, owner of Mill Crest Vintage, has spent three decades hand selecting each piece to add to her amazing collection of vintage bridal wear for both the traditional and non traditional bride, so she really knows about the potpourri of styles out there — from vintage to new — that do a body good! She has an amazing eye for detail and a great passion for finding what makes a woman feel the most beautiful on her wedding day. Offering personal and private bridal consultations in her Lambertville, New Jersey bridal salon, Paula has had the opportunity to work with hundreds of brides, gaining both experience and expertise in what goes into selecting a vintage wedding dresses and vintage bridesmaid dresses.

So the big day is almost here and you are now on the hunt for your wedding dress. You’ve scoured the magazines, surfed the web, and perhaps even taken pen to paper with your own designs in mind. Still, you have yet to find the dress that balances your (since you were 12 years old with a towel on your head running around the house singing “Here Comes The Bride”) dress of your dreams expectations, with the reality of your figure. While some very lucky gals out there can truly wear just about anything, the other 99% of us didn’t quite get the luck of the draw. Truth be told, it is not the size that matters (insert joke here) but instead, the shape. Yes lovelies, no matter what the scale says, figuring out one’s shape is much more important than one’s actual size. I hear ya! It’s about time someone finally focused on something other than the scale.

Seriously though, there is a good reason for all of this “figure out your figure” talk. The idea is to create the illusion of balance between the shoulder and the hip. Truthfully, this should be the ultimate goal for any woman when considering any dress. By determining one’s shape, a woman can determine which style of dress will balance out her figure best.

Here’s what we’re analyzing: pears, apples and squashes (yes, evidently squash is a fruit. Who knew?)

Ok, doll, time to get in front of a mirror and give yourself a good once over. Ask yourself: Am I shaped more like a pear (wider at the bottom than on the top)? How about an apple shape (wider in the middle than on top or bottom)? Perhaps I am shaped more like a squash (hourglass shaped)? Determining which fruit you most resemble will be the biggest and most important step in choosing the perfect dress.

For you pear shaped gals, stick with A-line dresses, as well as, halter style dresses. A-line dresses look great on the pear shaped figure because the A-line dress is narrow at the top and flares gently at the base thus, drawing attention to the upper body, shoulders, and neck while disguising the wider hips and thighs. The halter top style dresses look great on a pear shaped body, too, especially because the desire is to flatter the bust and draw attention away from the problem area (the wider hip). Choose a halter style dress that nips in at the waist, and flares out into a wider skirt. Dresses with thin straps or one-asymmetrical shoulder also look great on the pear shaped figure. This allows the dress to drape over the body in such a way that the shoulder line and hip become more symmetrical with one another. Using detail at the shoulders and/or at the bust line helps to further balance the hip-to-shoulder ratio, giving the illusion of a minimized hip and a more hourglass shape.

For all the pears out there: There are also a few what-not-to-do recommendations. Considering the two styles of dresses recommended, pear shaped women should still avoid busy patterns and embellishments throughout the entire dress and instead opt for embellishments only in the bodice. Beads, ribbons, ruffles, and other decorations on the bust of a form fitting bodice should be chosen over embellishments in the skirt. Avoid tops that have narrow v-necks, heavily-gathered necklines, dolman sleeves and raglan sleeves, which can all reduce the width of your shoulders.

Ok apples, you’re up! For our yummy apple figured gals, empire waistlines are highly recommended. An empire dress in the right material works well to elongate the body, drawing attention away from the midsection, while still managing to show off the good curves. This style narrows at the top and flares slightly as it cascades toward the bottom, which is why it is flattering for apple figures. Choose a material like cotton or cotton blends, which will skim the body’s silhouette, and go for monochromatic color schemes. The illusion of the empire waist line enhances the curves of the bust and hip in such a way that balance is achieved, while the proper draping and the monochromatic color scheme offer a streamlined effect.

As we discussed, the benefit of an empire style dress for apple shaped figures is that it camouflages the midsection offering a slimming effect. However, there are a few things to avoid, such as ruffled shoulders or shoulders with padding. Do not wear dresses that feature a lot of busy detail especially near the waist, like ruffles, ruching, or other embellishments. This calls attention to the midsection, which is the area apple shapes usually try to minimize focus. Also, avoid any rounded flower corsages and instead opt for a corsage with cascading effects.

Finally we have arrived at our squashed shaped ladies. Apologies for referring to this sort of shape as a squash, but it is truly the only hourglass shaped fruit we could find. Hey, squash could have been easily swapped for gourd. But no woman I know would like to be referred to as a gourd. Moving on… As you may have guessed, women with ample bosoms and hips to match are considered hourglass shaped, like a squash. For this figure type, we recommend going with an A-line dress or a wrap dress, as long as the fabric drapes over the curves of the body without cinching or hugging. The idea is not exactly to reduce size, but instead to enhance the curves and achieve overall balance. These two styles of dress work best for this figure type because both of them cinch at the waist, while revealing the already balanced ratio between bust and hip. In other words, these two styles of dress complement the curves of the curvy hourglass shaped woman. For more full figured hourglass shaped gals, we also recommend V-cut necklines and some sleeve, even if only capped, to conceal any spill over from the bust.

Some don’ts for our beautiful squashes include dresses with a straight style and sleeveless dresses. Also, as some of us know, larger arms sometimes accompany a larger bust-line. Adornments and embellishments are fine, but avoid any at the arms, because too much “bling” at the arm can add width and throw off the balance of the body. On a side note, please be sure to wear a proper-fitting plus-size bra that gives the breasts optimal support when wearing any style.

Follow these guidelines and your Jewish wedding will star a beautiful bride in the most perfect dress!

So there it is in nutshell (wait… nuts?). Sorry. There it is in a fruit bowl: The fruity approach to wedding dress shopping.

Your Jewish Wedding Is Over! Now What? Oh Yeah, Changing Your Name

All of you spring and summer brides are now good and married, so your next step is to make it official. Well, after you make it Facebook-official, of course.

Making it official means dealing with the government. Shudder. DMV… Social Security… You’re just so excited to deal with these fine institutions, aren’t you? It’s exactly how you want to spend your lunch break, right? Eye roll.

If only your name could magically change as soon as the first “mazel tov!” is cheered if that’s on your agendas (not everyone changes their name, and that’s fine!). Interacting with the cast of characters in this name-change process may sound tedious and even a bit overwhelming.

But really, it’s not that bad if you just break down all the steps. Yes, steps. Unfortunately, going to the Edit box and typing it in on your Facebook profile doesn’t make it a done-deal across the board of all your other important credentials (what?! Facebook doesn’t hold the reigns of official information?!). But still, a lot of women get overwhelmed with the idea of going through the name change. If you’re planning on taking on your new spouse’s last name, just know that it’s not so difficult after all, and The Wedding Yentas makes it easy for you with a how-to, step-by-step name change guide!

You can always access this helpful tool on the Planning Tools tab of the web site. But, in case you haven’t seen it, here it is in blog form:

Dealing with bureaucratic agencies to change your name after the wedding sounds about as fun as shoving bamboo shoots up your finger nails. And while it’s not exactly as pleasurable as inhaling a hot fudge sundae, it’s really not as difficult as you may think.

Here we’ll walk you through the steps of what you need to go from a Miss to a Mrs.

1. Order at least 4 copies of your marriage certificate from the county clerk’s office.

2. Download the form from the Social Security office and fill out the form before you go to the office in person. Bring the completed form, your identification, and an original copy of your marriage certificate to the Social Security office near you.

3. Next you’ll change your name on your driver license. Another official copy of your marriage certificate should help you in this process when you arrive at the DMV. You’ll also need to bring a form of identification like your driver license, passport, or birth certificate. Sometimes, certain DMVs in certain states also require you bring your new Social Security card, which means you may have to wait until it arrives. Check with your local DMV first. Also, make an appointment in advance if your DMV offers this convenient feature!

4. Don’t forget to change your name on your credit cards, insurance companies, your employer, banks, 401k and retirement plans, doctors, frequent flyer memberships, utilities companies (gas, phone, electricity, garbage, HOA, etc.). Usually, a simple phone call will do the trick or a quick log-in to their online portals.

5. Go buy new monogrammed towels to celebrate! Mazel tov!

How To Write Your Own Ketubah Text For Your Jewish Wedding

From-The-Expert
By Anna Abramzon of Anna Abramzon Studio

Ketubah text has been a hot topic lately, with the custom of a ketubah (or a decorative marital contract) becoming more and more popular among couples from all different backgrounds and faiths. A good way to think about your ketubah is as a “marriage” between visual art and written word. So, you found the perfect art that speaks to you, but what next? If you are getting married with an Orthodox or Conservative rabbi then the choice is easy, at least for the Hebrew portion of your ketubah — there is a standard Orthodox Aramaic text and what is known as the Conservative text with Lieberman Clause. If you have a rabbi from one of the more liberal movements then you have more decisions to make. Either way, most rabbis don’t mind if you pair the Hebrew or Aramaic with an English text of your choice, especially because the Orthodox and Conservative texts are pretty cut and dry. Ketubah websites and shops usually have a variety of texts for you to choose from, but what if none of them fully express what you want to say to each other? After all, it’s a very personal conversation between you and your fiancé!

Here are some tips for writing your own ketubah text:

The Basics:

A ketubah is a contract, so there is some information that it traditionally includes:

The date of the week of the wedding — if you are having the ceremony on a Saturday before sunset, some rabbis prefer that you list your wedding as Sunday so you are not getting married on Shabbat. This is something to check with your officiant.

The English date of the wedding

The Hebrew date of the wedding: remember, Hebrew days start at sunset, so if your chuppah is after sunset then you should list the next day’s Hebrew date. Here is a great site that will convert the date for you.

The location of the wedding: Definitely the city and state, some rabbis also like to add the country.

Your names and your parents’ names: traditionally the names are written in this form: “Jennifer daughter of Jacob and Elizabeth/Sam son of Michael and Rachel.” Of course whether or not you want to include the parents’ names is ultimately a decision for you and your rabbi. Most Orthodox rabbis prefer to just have the fathers’ names, while Conservative rabbis are often times more open to including both parents’ names.

A sample first paragraph of a ketubah text:

On the _________ day of the week, the _________ day of the month of _____________, corresponding to the __________ day of the month of ______________ in the year _________________, here in __________, ____________, the bride ________________ daughter of ____________ and ____________, and the groom ______________ son of _______________ and _____________, come together before family and friends to affirm their commitment to one another as partners in marriage.

Now the fun part:

Think of ketubah text as vows you are making to each other. A good way to get started is to brainstorm your values as a couple. Some good starting points: respect, kindness, support, love, faith, nurture. Do you plan to have kids? You can include some values for raising children, such as “we will pass on our values to our children”.

Don’t be afraid to get personal. Want your partner to bring you a glass of water before bed every night? Here’s your chance to get it in writing!

It’s OK to be funny. Some amazing clients of mine wrote a truly unique ketubah text that included that the bride “always gets a maid.” and “In return the (groom) will always have a microwave (lest he find himself stirring his oatmeal over an electric stove like some early-American pioneer);” Another favorite of mine was a couple who were both teachers and ended their text with “I vow to always be your greatest teacher.” Remember, that humor is never bad for a relationship and is as old a Jewish value as the 10 commandments. 😉

You can write the paragraphs as vows you are saying to each other:

“The bride and groom declared to one another: ….”

Or divide them:

“The bride, _______, said to the groom_________: ….”

“And the Groom,__________, promised his bride__________: …”

Be true to your spirituality: If religion is an important part of your lives, then by all means include that in your text. You can draw on biblical passages, or mention conditioning ancient traditions. But if religion is not your thing, then don’t feel pressured to mention it. This is your ketubah and it should reflect who you are as a couple.

Ask for help: If you get stumped, ask for help! Studying others’ ketubah texts can help you get ideas, but your rabbi, officiant, or ketubah artist could also be great resources. Remember, they deal with ketubahs all day long and you can’t beat that kind of experience!

Make it meaningful: When my husband and I were getting married, our rabbi said to us that engagement is like a microcosm of the rest of your lives together. You deal with all the big issues: budget, family, personal taste, etc., at once. Your ketubah text is a great opportunity to start a conversation and set a precedent for how you will work together as a couple.

Don’t forget to proof read: Because wouldn’t you hate to stare at a typo on your wall for the rest of your lives?

Enjoy the journey. Remember, your ketubah will stay with you forever, so let this process be a wonderful memory that accompanies you both into old age. Mazel tov!

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Anna Abramzon StudioToday, Anna Abramzon of Anna Abramzon Studio chimes in as a ketubah expert on The Wedding Yentas! They say she started drawing before she started walking, but that may be an exaggeration. As soon as she did start walking though, Anna started traveling, sketchbook in hand. She has lived all over the place and her travels have infused her artwork with color and life. Anna specialize in mixed media, combining collage with gouache, watercolor, pencil and ink. Anna met and married her husband in Jerusalem, Israel, and thought their wedding was a wonderful opportunity to create some love-inspired art, so she painted their ketubah, their invites, their thank you notes, and pretty much everything else that she possibly could for their wedding. Next thing she knew, other people started asking her to create artwork for their weddings. And that’s how Anna became a ketubah artist. She lives in Houston, Texas with her husband and daughter. Shop for your ketubah and keepsake art at Anna Abramzon Studio.

From The Expert: Understanding Your Options for Wedding Invitations

Fla-de-Dahs is a custom design studio and a recent winner of Special Events Magazine’s coveted “Best Invitation” award. Fla-de-Dahs has been creating one-of-a-kind invitations since 2001. While our main focus is custom invitations, we also carry several unique, high quality, ready-made invitations that cannot be found anywhere else. Fla-de-Dahs produces all projects in-house to ensure that the client receives the highest level of quality with each piece being hand-crafted and supervised by an expert production team. Each project begins with a complimentary personal design consultation. Once the client chooses a design, a complete sample will be presented for the client to review and approve before production begins. Make sure to “like” Fla-de-Dahs on Facebook and if you’re a Southern California local, visit their beautiful studio.

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Before you can make your decisions about wedding invitations, you’ll probably ask yourself: which is best for you — custom, DIY, or online?

??Before we look into the question of which is right for you, first consider that the invitation you choose is the first glimpse of what people will see and know about your event. It will set the tone and is truly the “front door to you event.” Custom isn’t right for everyone, but for many, it is the choice that can assure you that your event is one not to be missed.

DIY Perks:
If you are pretty creative and crafty, then this option can be cost-saving and fun, too. You can get friends and family involved and this could end up being a fun project that can create some nice memories.
DIY Disadvantages:
Choosing paper and embellishments can be daunting for those who don’t have an eye for this type of creativity and if you simply want to save money, this is not the choice for you. Knowing which paper to choose, how to cut it, how to print on it, how to embellish it and which tools are necessary to accomplish all of this may not be worth the time for the amount of money you may save.

Choose DIY if you are creative and have the time to spend and the tools to make your own invitations.

Online Perks:
They are usually less expensive and because of the vast catalog available online, you will most likely find the style that you’re looking for. Most can be modified to incorporate your colors and some even offer minor types of embellishments.
Online Disadvantages: Because you haven’t seen it, you can’t be sure of the quality of the materials. Sometimes, the samples fall short of the image presented online. You may end up wasting some time waiting for a sample only to find that it is not the quality you were expecting. Most of the time you need to buy in groups of 25, so there may be some waste.

Choose online if you are looking for a low cost invitation that can be made fairly quickly.

Custom Perks:
Since you are creating the invitation based on your unique style and taste, your invitation will be unlike anyone else’s. No one will have seen it online, or worse, received it for another event. This allows you to create your own brand for your event and can be carried throughout with all of your wedding accessories, including programs, escort cards, etc.
Custom Disadvantages: Most often, they are more expensive.

Choose custom if you are looking for a unique invitation that captures the essence of your event that no one else will have.

The gorgeous Flah-de-Dahs Southern California studio is home to the finest papers and stylized embellishments. It’s a kid-in-a-candy-store experience to touch and see the in-house products, and below you can see some photographic samples of such delicate, detailed, and intricate custom pieces!

Custom Wedding Invitations

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Signs Of A Great Wedding: Signs!

Most venues are clean canvases that don’t have much personality. I’m not saying they’re ugly or cold. But they’re… generic. Let’s face it, no venue was built with the two of you specifically in mind. You choose the venue because you feel like you relate to it enough. But does it relate enough to you?

You can’t recarpet or repaint or relandscape your wedding location, but you can sprinkle bits of your personalities — your… “ness” — to make it unique and relevant to you and your worlds that come together to celebrate you.

How?

Signs!

Fun, cute signs that match your style and decor are fairly inexpensive and easy ways to personalize your wedding venue; low hanging wedding fruit, if you will.

First, there’s the “pick a seat, not a side” signs. We discussed this a while back, that many couples are choosing to make sure their guests know they don’t have to sit on one specific side at the ceremony since both families are coming together. There are super cute ways to get this message across.

From Weddingbee

From Weddingbee

wedding signs

From Etsy Store: SarahSaysSew

From Etsy Store: SarahSaysSew

If your wedding venue has a lot of rooms or large grounds, it might be helpful to have direction signs to point your folks toward the important stuff: ceremony, reception, um… booze.

You can also personalize these signs further by including your logo on them if you’ve created one. It’s also a chance to take advantage of utilizing your wedding colors or other unique stylings.

From Esty store TRUECONNETION

From Esty store TRUECONNETION

From Etsy Store TRUECONNECTION

From Etsy Store TRUECONNECTION

From Etsy Store Dockside Cottage

From Etsy Store Dockside Cottage

From Etsy Store TRUE CONNECTION

From Etsy Store TRUE CONNECTION

Another popular trend is spicing up your thank you notes with a truly personal thank you! Bring a sign to the wedding and make sure your photographer snaps you posing with it! When you’re married and settled, you’ll have the photos printed on some cards and bam! — personalized thank you notes.

There are lots of cute moves and signs you can execute in front of the camera. Here are some favs!

Heather Sali Photography

Heather Sali Photography

Victoria Souza Photography

Victoria Souza Photography

WeddingWire

WeddingWire

At the reception, there are lots of great opportunities to spice up the party with some signs. From the cake and candy bar to the bride and groom chairs, feel free to accessorize where you see fit.

Since photo booths are a fun asset to a wedding reception, take advantage and do some signage there, too!

I also love the concept of sharing your love story! You don’t have to write a novel. Just include bulleted facts and dates of how you two developed into youtwo.

Cardstock and wood seem to be popular choices for signs, but chalk boards are also the current trend to communicate with your guests. They are all really aesthetically pleasing, so you can’t go wrong.

Wedding Signs

Wedding Signs

Elizabeth Zuluaga Photography

Elizabeth Zuluaga Photography

From Etsy Story Our Hobby To Your Home

From Etsy Story From Our Hobby To Your Home

Jose Villa Photography

Jose Villa Photography

Weddingbee

Weddingbee

Wedding Signs