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From The Expert: Mother’s Day Gifts… Redone

Don’t forget to get your entry in so you can win a fabulous flower hair accessory from Fascinate Me! The giveaway is going on now through May 14th at 11:59 p.m. PST, and you can enter with a comment about your favorite piece on the Fascinate Me Facebook page AND The Wedding Yentas post here for a maximum of two entries! The winner, who will be chosen at random, will be announced May 15th. Read here for all the juicy details!

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Today, it’s so exciting and inspiring to have Old new borrowed redo™ guest blog all about the perfect Mother’s Day gift ideas since the holiday where we honor our favorite ladies — our moms! — is next Sunday, May 13. Old new borrowed redo™ was a business in the making over the course of Lindsey’s wedding planning, but materialized during a long walk on her honeymoon! While shopping for that perfect gown, Lindsey found herself being asked the same question over and over again: “What are you going to do with your gown after your wedding?” Immediately, she had the answer: “Make pillows for my bedroom.” A few months later, while she was on her honeymoon, Lindsey thought: Why not provide customers with an easy, no-fuss service, where we take their wedding gowns and turn them into fabulous and customized keepsakes? The Martha Stewarts of garments we don’t need anymore provide practical AND sentimental ideas for mom on this Mother’s Day and all special days!

Every year, around the third weekend in April, the two of us, Lindsey and Jennifer, exchange endless emails and numerous phone calls with our older sister, Staci, trying to get an early jumpstart on the obstacle that’s only a few weeks away: what to get our mother for Mother’s Day.

One of us will mention getting her a massage so that she can unwind and forget the stress that comes with having three daughters! However, that idea is quickly dismissed when one of us points out that we got her a massage for her birthday last year. A gift certificate to go shopping is always a perfect present for our mother who loves to shop. But we begin to have second thoughts thinking that it’s not personal enough. And so we, like many of our customers, spend weeks trying to come up with a present for our mom that is truly unique and sentimental and shows just how amazing and special she is to each one of us.
So we are touched when our customers turn to us, Old new borrowed redo™ (ONBR), to create unique and personal keepsakes to gift to those special people in their lives.

Like Sarah, a recent ONBR customer who wanted to turn the bridesmaid dress her aunt wore at her parent’s wedding and turn it into a truly special and unique 25th wedding anniversary present. Sarah envisioned redoing the lavender taffeta bridesmaid dress into a custom pillow and picture frame, adorned with the ruffle around the neck of the dress. She also wanted to embroider her parents’ monogramed initials in silver, symbolizing 25 years of marriage. We were thrilled to make Sarah’s vision a reality. Sarah had a unique and sentimental present to give to her parents on their special day.

And then there’s Kelly, who wanted a special present to give to her brother and sister-in-law upon the arrival of their new daughter, Makayla. Kelly used the scraps from the bridesmaid dress she wore at their wedding to create a personal nameplate that was embroidered with Makayla’s name and date of birth. The bridesmaid dress was also incorporated into the piping along the perimeter of the baby blanket and matching pillow.

Or Lesley, who knew her granddaughters probably would not wear her wedding gown from 35 years ago. Lesley was thrilled to know ONBR could find a way for her dress to walk down the aisle in the form of ring bearer pillows. Lesley now has a way to incorporate the something old and something new for her granddaughters’ weddings.

Former bridesmaids are now finding plenty of ways to recycle those bridesmaid dresses worn at their friend’s weddings. Many are redoing the bridesmaid dresses into baby blankets and gifting to their friends upon the arrival of their first child, like the black and hot pink baby blanket and pillow created for one of our customers.

Our inspiration to redo comes from our own experiences with the dresses sitting in the closets. We counted all the dresses that we had kept throughout the years and the number was astonishing. We surveyed our friends who told us the same.

At ONBR, we believe in transforming our customer’s wedding gowns, bridesmaid dresses, Bat Mitzvah dresses, prom dresses, and any dress that holds sentimental meaning and redo them into custom keepsakes such as custom pillows, baby blankets, picture frames, and even lingerie. We know that each one of us holds on to dresses because of the sentimental meaning that it has in each one of our lives.
Our custom keepsakes are the perfect unique and personal gift for Mother’s Day, any holiday or just because.

Happy redoing,
Lindsey & Jennifer

WIN IT: Hair Accessories You Must Have

GIVEAWAY OPPORTUNITY!! Read on for more information about what you’re entering to win and how the prize can be yours!

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Hair today… married tomorrow!

That should be your mantra when it comes to looking your best on your wedding day. You pour hours and tears and pins and diets into find our dream dress. You walk around your house and do chores in your shoes so you’ll break them in and avoid painful tootsies on the big day. Natural makeup, loose curls, spray tan — the appointments are made and you’re ready to complete the look. What’s missing in your head-to-toe wedding day beauty? Your oh-so fabulous hair accessory from Fascinate Me!

Fascinate Me specializes in handmade fascinators, floral sashes, and birdcage veils for modern brides. Since opening, Fascinate Me has had the honor of being worn by brides all over the world. Joanne, owner and artist of Fascinate Me, began making fascinators when she just couldn’t find the right piece for her own wedding. She enjoyed it so much that she kept making more and eventually decided to open her store.

As we may recall from last year’s royal wedding, “fascinator” is another term for a hair accessory and is the inspiration for the store name. Don’t worry, a fascinator from Fascinate Me won’t have you looking like Princesses Eugenie and Beatrice of York who made “British hats” the talk of the town slash world when all eyes were also on William Pippa and Kate. Major oy veys there.

Now that that’s out of the way and you can take a deep breath knowing you won’t have to find a bigger venue to accommodate your fascinator, let’s gush over some beautiful hair accessories from Fascinate Me that would complement any bride’s individual style.

Must love the variety! There are so many details and variations that can be perfect for a beachy destination bride, a traditional Jewish bride with a bit of flair, and a modern bride who wants a simple birdcage veil.

And each variation is made with beautiful high-quality materials like feathers, lace, and beading. There are even two-pieces fascinators in the event you want to space out the coverage in your hair. And if you have your own idea of what your dream hair accessory should look like, Joanne can customize one for you! She’s just that good. Gosh, I love featuring devoted and talented wedding vendors!

So, good news in all this: YOU CAN WIN A FASCINATE ME FASCINATOR! Sprinkle yourself with a fascinating fascinator on your wedding day, compliments of Joanne, herself! Enter to win a beautiful oversized feather flower fascinator that is approximately 6.0″ in diameter and has a sparkly 1″ rhinestone center. The Gone with the Wind fascinator is made with two luxurious layers of feathers and accented with countless ostrich feathers that give it fun and flirty movement. This little baby will attach securely to your hair via a 1.5″ alligator clip.

You will look so beautiful in your Gone With The Wind fascinator with its feminine and delicate touch! This would seriously go with any style wedding gown! Ball gown, sleek, fit-n-flare, reception dress: it’s perfection! Note: fascinator does not come with the promise of bony shoulders shown on model.

See what you can win as shown on a real bride with photos by Kurt Boomer Photography:

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As a recent bride, Joanne can relate to the pressure that a new bride goes through during the wedding planning process. Therefore, she makes every piece as if she is making it for her own wedding. Joanne is a perfectionist and has no problem answering any and all questions that you might have. All of her pieces were designed and are handmade by her in her studio.

Ready to enter? Here are the details!

From now through 11:59 p.m. PST on May 14th, you have two weeks to enter yourself (and your friends!) to win!
How To Enter: Leave a comment on this page and tell us about your favorite Fascinate Me fascinator. Leave a comment on the Fascinate Me Facebook page for an additional entry! Two entries total per person (we, we can see IP addresses!). Wink wink. A random winner will be selected and then announced on Tuesday, May 15th.

What You Can Win: The winner will receive the above fascinator or choose a $65 store credit instead of the Gone With The Wind fascinator. The store credit is non-transferrable and is NOT redeemable for cash. It is for single use only; it may not be split up for use in multiple transactions. If the winner’s order total exceeds $65, then the winner is responsible for paying the remaining balance of the order. The winner can customize her fascinator; the color options are: White, Light Ivory, or Black.

How You’ll Get It: Shipping will be free for a U.S. and international winners via USPS First Class mail. Please note that international shipping will not be insured or trackable. Additionally, any customs fees or taxes must be paid by the recipient. The fascinator will be handcrafted and shipped within 2 weeks of the announcement of the winner. US shipping will take about a week and international shipping takes 2-4 weeks (depending on customs). Once a package is shipped, Fascinate Me, LLC cannot be held responsible for the Postal Service’s actions.

Also, as an added bonus to all Yentas readers, everyone can take advantage of a 10% discount via the coupon code “YENTAS” — thanks, Fascinate Me!

Good luck!

Yours, Mine, and Ours — Oy!

Unlike Tevye’s daughters in “Fiddler on the Roof,” you don’t exactly need a dowry and probably already have your own apartment or home filled with furniture, dishes, and tchotchkes galore. Odds are you’ve been living on your own for quite some time and have your own way of doing things.

With all the excitement of planning a wedding and the anticipation of the big day, you might not have thought about how you will merge two homes into one. It’s quite possible that between you exist duplicates of everyday living, such as small appliances, flat-screen TVs, and the cushy sofa you snuggle up on to watch Mad Men.

Here are some ideas to help you blend your two homes into one and survive the process without coming to blows. I think we all remember the famous “wagon-wheel” coffee table scene from the movie, When Harry Met Sally, and would do anything to avoid that situation.

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Compromise is an integral ingredient of a successful marriage and communication is key. Figure out which items are most important to you, what you are willing to let go, and be sensitive to your partner’s desires as well.

What to Keep/What to Donate/Sell
Take a full inventory of both homes to identify duplicates. Try to be objective and figure which items will fit best in your new space, and how they will be used. This can really come in handy as you develop your bridal registry. No sense in having something in triplicate. I recommend taking measurements of large furniture (sofas, tables, chairs) to determine which pieces will fit best in your new home.

Be sensible: keep the newer, small appliances and donate the old toaster, can opener, etc. Be sensitive, too, if your partner just loves the coffee mug with his fraternity logo; it’s okay to keep it. Don’t sweat the small stuff!

Anything you don’t keep can be sold or donated. If you have the time and an accessible yard or driveway holding a garage sale could be fun. If that doesn’t float your boat, Craigslist is a good place to sell just about anything. Things that don’t sell can be donated to the charity of your choice. The National Council of Jewish Women will come and pick up your items.
To schedule a pick-up call 1-800-400-6259 or visit their website.

Household Chores/Bill Paying
The unfortunate truth is that our daily lives are filled with many mundane tasks. Identifying who does what and choosing the tasks you like to do can make life so much easier. Sit down with your fiance and make a list of household chores. Talk about how each of you currently accomplish these tasks and which ones you like and don’t like to do. Maybe one person likes to pay bills while the other one is happy to do the dishes.

Home Organization
Think of your new home as the foundation of your new life together. With the infrastructure in place, maintaining a sense of order and organization will be so much easier.

Essentially, everything needs a home and like-items go together. This really applies to every area of the home. The pantry is a good example. Set up zones with categorical items: baking, pasta/sauces; canned goods; cereals/breakfast items; spices/oils/vinegars; cookies/candy/desserts, etc. Creating zones in your pantry cuts down on overbuying at the grocery store.

This philosophy can applied to any area where items are stored: wardrobe closet, linen closet, drawers, and under the sink. If all your black pants are hanging next to each other it makes it easier to find them and pretty obvious that you don’t need another pair!

Files Instead of Piles
With mail coming in for two things can pile up quickly. Papers need a home, too. You can certainly maintain two sets of files but I would recommend merging household files, such as insurance, shared credit cards, etc. If you decide to merge your household files, be sure to agree on the name of file so you both can retrieve information. For example, create a tab called AUTO and have two files, one with the name of your car and the other with the name of your finance’s car.

Going through this process before you are married will save time, money, and aggravation later. With a little upfront planning, merging your two homes into one will be a breeze. Take the time to set up your foundation and enjoy the results.

Follow my motto: organize to simplify, and have more time for the fun stuff.

Cindy Kamm has been an organizing specialist since 2003. A former marketing professional, Cindy brings her passion for organizing to homes and offices in greater L.A. Customized solutions are created for each client, designed to fit with their personality and lifestyle. From kitchens to closets, no job is too big or too small. Cindy can be reached at 310-963-5826; cindy@details-etc.com; www.details-etc.com.

Tales From The Veil: Learning From Other Weddings

Another “Tales from the Veil” story is brought to us by Rachel Kitt who is the Executive Assistant at the Jewish Federation of San Diego County. She loves to run competitively and for pleasure, bake gluten-free sweets, and hang out with her hubby, a San Diego attorney. After eloping to the island of Oahu in December of 2007, Rachel finds herself looking back on her Jewish destination wedding adventure and laughing out loud. Her story will show you how any bride can take wedding disasters and turn them into wedded bliss. Lemons into lemonade. Grapes into Manischewitz. We’ll be hearing more from Rachel as a regular contributor to The Wedding Yentas.

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Once upon a time, your first girlfriend got engaged and you were, shall we say, hmmmmm, a tad jealous. Not jealous, like, you are angry with her. But more like, seriously, why can’t the boyfriend hurry up and propose so you could be the one in her shoes. We may not admit it out loud, but we’ve been there. Anyway, you sucked it up (or drank some wine) and a year or so later, you went to your friend’s happy occasion. You thought, “the flowers are so pretty” and “wow, look at her dress.” Maybe you were thinking, “yikes, I wish the food tasted better.” But mostly, you thought about how beautiful it all was. How happy you were for your girlfriend! And then with each friend’s wedding, the cycle continued and continued and continued.

Until the day you got engaged.

The day you get engaged definitely changed your life, but you also began to see weddings you attended in a whole new light. Instead of “wow, she looks beautiful!” you started thinking “hmmmm, that looks good, but maybe I’ll do looser curls.” When you saw the bridesmaids, you thought “ooh, knee length looks less formal! I like that!” or “do I want a black-tie wedding?”

Me as a bridesmaid with my sister-in-law at her and my brother's wedding.

What I’m trying to say is that your weddings of your friends and family will be more than just their special day: it will be a walk-through for you. A mini trial. It’s a free and safe test run. You need to not only enjoy the festivities, but take note of what you liked and didn’t like.

When I was engaged, I actually would go home after a wedding and write down what I liked and didn’t like. You know, it’s almost like a real, live (but private) Pinterest. It’s not a critique on your friend’s wedding, or anything personal about her. It’s not about your friends, the bride and groom, at all, actually. It’s about you getting real world experience from a guest’s perspective with a bridal point of view. You may have never thought twice — or even once! — about the difference between passed hors d’ oeuvres versus an appetizer station. Food was food and you were eating it. But now, with a wedding to plan, you are thinking more about these very decisions you’ll have to make yourself.

My husband and I with our friends Lindsey and Jody at their beautiful wedding in 2010.

So go in there with an agenda. Borrow your friend’s experience. And when your wedding day comes, hopefully you won’t realize it, but rest assured that as you are walking down the aisle, at least one of your girlfriends will probably be looking around and thinking, “I love the flowers she chose!” or “Wow, natural looking make-up is the way to go!”

Wedding Invitations: A Step By Step Guide

Out of all your wedding tasks you have to accomplish, ordering and organizing wedding invitations may seem like the biggest headache. It may not be the most glamorous task (oo la la, dress shopping!) or the yummiest (cake tasting for the win!), but it’s a really important one. After all, how else are your guests going to know when and where to show up on your big day? It’s the foundation of your wedding day and can even set the tone for what guests can expect.

Want the scoop on the process? Here’s a breakdown before you have a breakdown.

Get Organized:
Before you even have to pick out your invitations, you have to pick out the people you want to receive them. Start early and start collecting addresses once you’ve finalized your guest list. Keep an organized spreadsheet and have it handy because once you receive your ready invitations, you’ll need to mail them out and the last thing you want to do is catalog addresses because it’ll slow your process down.

Plan Out:
If your wedding is Fall of 2012, you might think you have tons of time. It’s only April! What’s the rush? The wedding is the end of October! You have six-ish months! Right? WRONG! Work backwards. You need to mail out the invitations six to eight weeks before your wedding date. (late August/early September). Prior to that, you’ll need to assemble the invitations (may take a week). Before that, you’ll have order the invitations and they will take some time come in (sometimes four to six weeks depending on the vendor or manufacturer). That brings you to ordering in early July. Searching for the perfect invitation won’t be an instant task, either. You’ll look at many samples or visit many boutiques or designers. Take your time to shop. Give yourself at least a month. So now you’re looking at starting in June. It’s April now. Need I say more?

Play it extra safe and assume something will go wrong. I know, what happened to the optimistic Yenta? You never know! The manufacturer could go under (yay economy!) or there could be a typo on your response card. You never know. Don’t wait until the last minute to place your oder in case you have to make a quick reorder.

Search According To Your Budget:
Invitations work the same way as shopping for your dress: don’t fall in love with something out of your budget. If you can’t put down the cash for the Monique, by all means, don’t try on the Monique (I know, it’s so hard, but this is for your sanity). It’s no different with your invitations. If you know you can’t have letterpress printing in your budget, don’t even look at samples with such deliciously beautiful and drool-worthy fine details. You don’t want to have to overspend on invitations and you definitely don’t want to have to go take away from another area of your budget in order to have the suite you — oops! — fell in love with. Be up front with your invitation consultant about your budget and be sure to stick to it. If the consultant or designer tries to upsell you, it’s disrespectful and you should not continue with their services.

If you have no budget to speak of and money is of no object, well, by all means, why are we not friends? I like Marc Jacobs and I wear a size 8 shoe.

Shop By Feature:
Ask yourself: what’s the one element your invitation absolutely must have? A specific color? A design? A paper size or shape? Pick that one element and shop by that one element. In a perfect world, that one element complements your overall wedding style. Let’s face it, there are lots of pretty invitations to choose from, but if you select all the ones you like, you’ll never pick THE one. If it’s a turquoise and white color them you’re going for, that means you will shop invitations with only that theme. If you’re working with a designer who’s making a custom suite for you, feel free to bring pictures with you to share the features you like. Many wedding invitation websites allow you to search by feature as well, so utilize that convenience. A personal favorite is Wedding Paper Divas. Don’t get sidetracked and distracted by other — oooo!! Shiny invitations with rhinestones!!! You’ll be married before your invitations even go out. Get it?

Invest In Samples:
Once you’ve narrowed down your top picks, and I mean, tip top tippy-top picks (top three?), order samples. This way, you can touch your paper, feel the print, smell that fresh new paper smell — mmmmmmm. This is your invitation test drive. Get to know and love it because once it’s out of your hands, it’s hanging on someone’s fridge.

Overall, you’ll just feel better about your order because you courted before your committed. Hopefully you did the same thing with the fiance, yes?

Decisions Beyond Invitations:
Remember, you’re not just mailing an invitation. You’re mailing an envelope, a response card, maybe a directions insert, and so on. Oh yes, and are you choosing to line your envelopes? What about an outer fancy shmancy envelope? These are the big decisions, people! Don’t forget to weigh your priorities. That outer envelope with the guests’ name and address contains another big envelope which has the real good inside that one. Do you really need the outer envelope? It’s formal and it looks cool and who doesn’t like opening multiple envelopes from one mailing? But, not only does it give you more glue to lick, but it also will cost you an additional amount. The add-ons and extra components require you to do a little more research, so just when you think you’ve selected the invitation itself, you still have to settle on a couple more choices.

But wait! There’s more! Many designers also happen to have paper for other uses in each invitation line. Everything from table numbers to escort cards to thank you notes. Do you want to tie in your entire suite with what your guests see at the wedding? Some may say, “Oh, who’s going to remember the invitation once they’re at the wedding anyway?” I can’t answer that question for you, but you can at least weigh in and make that decision. This can be seen as a convenience or as an added expense. Up to you.

Decide On The Amount:
Here’s where you do some math. Remember your guest list that you compiled at the beginning of this exercise? Count up your guest list by household. Not people, but each address. Aunt Ruthie and Uncle Murray count as two people for your caterer, yes, but they are really only one combined person — or household — for your invitation order. Don’t assume the guest list equals the amount of invitations you should order. You’ll end up ordering about double of what you actually need!

Then, you’ll actually order about 15% more than the actual amount of households that will receive invitations. You may have last minute additions to who you want to invite or you might want to activate the [gulp] B List for those who can’t make it from the A List. Hey, it happens. The good ol’ trusty USPS may lose some in the mail or your friend moved and didn’t bother to tell you her new address, so you’ll have to resend some. Also, you or your parents may want to keep some invitations for scrap books or photo albums, so you’ll need some extras.

Proof ‘Em:
There is absolutely nothing more atrocious than placing your order, receiving your oder a month later, and finding that you are apparently marrying Wilma instead of William. Oy vey. Proof the invitations before you send the OK to print. Proofreading does not mean reading them over and giving a nod of approval. Proofreading is executing the following tasks:

  • Read it to yourself.
  • Read it out loud.
  • Take a sheet of notebook paper with holes and slide the hole over the line of print so as to isolate every. individual. word. on. the. invitation. Any mistake that’s there will stand out at you!
  • Double check that the names and places are spelled correctly, addresses are listed correctly, numbers are ordered correctly, and basic English mechanics like commas and apostrophes are inserted correctly. It’s also a good idea to quadruple check that the wedding date and time are correct as well. You know, only a little important.

Celebrate:
You have placed your invitation order! Make another check on your list and breathe because this one was a doozy.

And then it’s time to move on to the next item.