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From The Expert: The Celebrationista Pitches Ideas for Planning a Bridal Shower

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Roni Borenstein of Celebrationista Events is a professional bridal shower and bachelorette party coordinator and your expert source for all pre-wedding planning! Roni is originally from Long Island, NY and now lives in Manhattan. While earning her Masters in Social Work from Columbia University, she began planning bridal showers and bachelorette parties for close friends who were getting married. After realizing her passion for event planning and a knack for putting together flawless celebrations, she began to transition from the field of social work into party planning. Her extensive experience includes planning bachelorette parties all over the country, birthday soirees for clients of every age from 25 to 90, baby showers, and bridal showers. She is a pre-wedding party guru whose creativity and skills ensure that each affair reflects the bride being honored. Combining budget-friendly event design with DIY extras, she can create a memorable shindig from start to finish. Roni prides herself in great attention to detail and up-to-date industry expertise. For more tips, photos, inspiration, and planning updates follow/contact her on Pinterest, Facebook, Twitter, and her blog!

Bridal Shower Planning
With all the stresses of planning a wedding, bridal showers are often put on the back burner. The shower is one pre-wedding soiree that the bride should have little to do with in terms of preparation. The last thing she needs as the big day gets closer is another bullet point to add to her to-do list. We’ve all sat through those disorganized showers that seem to go on for five hours and it’s not easy for the generous guests. Thoughtful planning, time management, and delegation are all required to create a memorable shower that keeps guests engaged. Every shower should be personal and reflect the unique personality of the bride. It may seem like a lot of work, but don’t fret. In the next few days, I’ll give you the basics of shower planning, ideas for every budget, suggestions, inspirations, and etiquette tips so you will feel as confident as a professional event planner when it’s over. I have included photos galore and some common answers to dilemmas that brides, bridesmaids, and hosts often face. Hostesses, just remember to plan ahead, make it personal, and follow my tips and you’ll throw a shower guests will never forget!

The Basics
Historically, it was in poor taste for a relative of the bride, especially her mother, to host the shower. Nowadays, it’s not uncommon for the mom, sister, aunt, future mother-in-law, or other relative to foot the bill for the shower and be listed on the invitation as host. Especially if the shower is being held at a restaurant, country club, or other venue with a sizeable guest list, the age-old rule can be overlooked. The bridesmaids are still responsible for planning much of the shindig, but if mom is handling the logistics, the bridal shower can usually have a larger budget and guest list. If your best friend’s wedding is in a few months, start thinking about what she would plan for her own shower, and offer to help mom with the essentials anyway; your suggestions will be appreciated and there’s nothing wrong with a joint effort between the mom and the maids. With a few extra details you can turn a generic shower into one any bride will be amazed by.

It’s All In The Details
Start by brainstorming and pick a theme- does she have a favorite color or season? Does the couple have specific hobbies or shared interests? What is her style and what are her obsessions? Once you have this to work from, coordinating the details will be much simpler. When planning any event, I always start by piecing together any cute ideas and products I find from the Internet, past showers, pictures, or shopping trips related to the theme. I come back to that real-life “pinboard” over and over until each element has been chosen and I know I didn’t leave anything out. But with all the great ideas out there on websites like Pinterest, it will be key to stay organized and avoid getting overwhelmed. Make decisions based on your theme and budget.

Let’s get inspired with some pics from my favorite showers that I either planned or attended as a guest. (Later on you’ll see photos from the same showers when we talk about gift and bridesmaid ideas.)

For Rebecca’s autumn shower, plush cranberry tablecloths and twig-and-berry napkin rings adorned each table. Pine cones, branches and berries were mixed in for table decor. Soup was served in butternut squash bowls. The favor bags, table numbers, and escort cards were ordered from beau-coup.com to match our “Falling in Love” theme at a reasonable price. This shower was so fun to plan because there was an added bonus: a fall-themed candy bar for a candy-obsessed bride. Everything from sour peaches and caramel apple candies, personalized M&Ms, candy corn, and custom initial lollies were included. The set-up was gorgeous and guests took home their treats in fall-colored custom candy bags with mix and match bows.

At Meredith’s bridal shower menus were printed on placemat-sized versions of her invitation. Turquoise was the focus of the day and showed up everywhere, from the bathroom tissue to picture frames at the bar. Each girl took home a personalized leather photo holder that doubled up as place settings and Vera Bradley mint tins.

The Wedding Company in Manhasset, NY helped design the details for Mallorie’s pink shower: pink menus, napkins, personalized advice cards, a framed seating list, table number signs with directions for an activity on the back, rose Champagne favors, and custom mint tins. Pink peonies and a miniature bride decorated each table. Pink parasol cake pops and pink Baked by Melissa cupcakes at the dessert table made for delicious treats both during the shower and after. *Budgeting Tip: You can often rent props like a parasol or bride bodice to place at the gift table or use as centerpieces from a professional event company.

Explanation of Traditions for Your Wedding Program

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Don’t forget your chance to enter to win! Clay Bouquet is giving away a $25 gift certificate to her store! Just check out Clay Bouquet‘s shop and report back by leaving a comment here and sharing what you would choose if you won the prize!

Entries will be accepted through Monday, July 2nd at 11:59 p.m. PST. Winner is selected at random and announced on Facebook on July 3rd. Good luck!

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Are you providing programs for your guests? Programs are a great extra detail to create for your wedding ceremony. It’s a perfect place to welcome your friends and family, say thank you to those who made your wedding day possible, and even remember the loved ones who are no longer with you, but hold a special place in your heart and memory.

And, most importantly, it’s an ideal place to share some of the traditions your guests may see while you’re under the chuppah. Usually, a rabbi will lead the ceremony and describe what’s happening and why, but for those who want to take the program with them or if they missed the rabbi’s description, your friends and family can read about the beautiful traditions you’re including.

A typical wedding program will include the couple’s name, wedding date, and location on the cover. Inside, guests can usually find a welcome message from the couple, an ordered list of the people in the processional (officiant, parents, grandparents, bridal party, etc.), the order of the ceremony (this includes readings or songs and who will be performing them if it’s anyone other than the officiant), the traditions included throughout the day before, during, and after the ceremony, and an in memoriam-type of list.

This is a guide that has popular, mainstream Jewish traditions. If you are choosing to include other customs from another religion or culture, this would be a good place to add them. If your ceremony is more on the super reform side, you can tailor the wording and traditions listed below. And if you’re going ultra traditional, you’ll most likely need to add several more components. These selected traditions are from a modern, mainstream “conservaform” wedding and seem to follow the types of Jewish wedding ceremonies that visiting Yentas are designing. Feel free to “steal” what works for you and confirm with your officiant. It would be impossible to include every couple’s possible specific traditions and their “whys” and “hows” since all couples’ interpretation of Jewish weddings are different. So, I must reiterate, this is a skeleton, not a set-in-stone format.

Good luck! Email alison@theweddingyentas.com if you have additional questions!

Ketubah
The marriage contract (ketubah) specifies the couple’s commitment to each other. The ketubah was signed during a ceremony before the wedding service and contains the signatures of the bride and groom as well as two witnesses who are Jewish and not blood relatives. The rabbi has also signed and dated the ketubah to make it official.

Bedeken
The bedeken is the veiling ceremony during which the groom placed a veil over the bride. This ceremony took place privately and is considered one of the most moving elements of a traditional Jewish wedding. By covering his bride with a veil, the groom ascertained her identity, and confirmed that he is marrying the woman of his heart’s desire.

Chuppah
The chuppah is a canopy that symbolizes the home that the bride and groom will build together. The chuppah is open on all sides, also symbolizing that friends and family are always welcome in the newlyweds’ home.

Hakafot
The bride circles the groom (hakafot) seven times. Two interpretations of the significance: seven is the number of days of creation, and the wedding ceremony is the creation of a new household; seven is the number of times the phrase “when a man takes a wife” occurs in the Torah.

Wrapping the Tallit
During the final benediction, the couple is wrapped by a tallit (prayer shawl) around their shoulders. This wrapping symbolizes the private Jewish life the bride and groom will have together.

Breaking of the Glass
The wedding ceremony concludes with the groom breaking a glass under his foot. There are many significances behind this custom. One of them is that it is a reminder that relationships are as fragile as glass and must always be treated with care, love and respect. After the breaking of the glass, the guests yell, “Mazel Tov!” which means good luck.

Yichud
After the chuppah ceremony, the couple is escorted to a private room and left alone for a few minutes. These moments of seclusion signify their new status of living together as husband and wife.

Advice From a Professional Wedding Guest: Save the Dates

Carly Eskin has been attending weddings all of her life. She has been a bridesmaid, bridal shower organizer, and even coordinated her best friend’s nuptials. As far as weddings go, she loves creative venues, pretty color palettes, dancing the Hora, and busting her moves to Sly and the Family Stone’s “We Are Family”, even if she isn’t part of the family. Her dislikes include mosquitos at outdoor venues, the redundancy of “Please RSVP”, and being the only unmarried woman forced to go and catch the bouquet while Beyonce’s “Single Ladies” is playing. Carly is a native Angeleno. She writes, works, watches bad (aka amazing) television, and is obsessed with her niece and nephew. She is currently single and looking for her tall, chubby, bearded beshert, so help a girl out.

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While I graduated with a B.A. in psychology, what I really have is a Ph.D. in being a wedding guest. I have been to a wide array of weddings. I have been to very spendthrift weddings and I have been to weddings that cost in the six figures. From destination weddings to backyard soirées, grand hotels to public parks, I have seen them all. And, I take mental notes; very detailed mental notes. Needless to say, I know what a guest likes (open bar if you can) and dislikes (mosquitos at outdoor venues!). In my series, I want to share the usually ignored opinion of what we wedding guests appreciate and what we dread.

Today it’s all about something that affects the lives of all potential wedding guests: STDs. Ya know, Save the Dates.

As the old adage says, you only have one time to make a first impression. And, in the wedding world, that impression is usually in the form of a Save the Date.

First impressions, much like that first date you had with your soon-to-be husband, set the tone for the forthcoming journey. And, as The Wedding Yentas resident wedding guest expert, I know that the most memorable Save the Dates are the creative ones! This is in no way to say that an elegant, letter pressed, simple Save the Date is the wrong choice, because I have seen some that just take my breath away. But, as a guest of the wedding, I always enjoy something that makes me laugh, smile, and makes me want to show others and say, “This was just too cute not to share!”

The following are some of my favorite examples and tips on how to please your wedding guests because after all, your wedding is being thrown for them, am I right? No? Whatever.

Tip #1: Everyone loves pictures of you both as kids
Take Carly and Kurt here. Look at those punims! Who knew that one day that adorable little girl and that debonair toddler would one day find themselves in love with one another? I’m sure Aunt Marcia is getting a kick strolling down memory lane. This is surely being taken to the “beauty shop” to be passed around. Is this the little girl I carried? Is this the little boy at play? Damn right it is. Sunrise, sunset!

Tip #2: Be silly!
Did you both really just write on your face? Yes, you did. And I thank you for the chuckle and I will definitely be saving that date. I just hope they weren’t silly enough to use a Sharpie.

Tip #3: Always be creative!
My, my, that Kristy and Nathan are original. And, it’s interactive! Jeez, I really feel like I’m a part of this wedding. And I also feel like I’m back at summer camp in the 6th grade. Need a noun? Always go for the sure fire laugh of Poop.

Tip #4: If you are skilled with a video camera and are able to figure out how to upload and edit your recordings, take advantage of yourself… or that college roommate you made fun of for thinking they were going to be the next Coppola.

I love this video. I haven’t met these people, but I want to! And I also want(ed) to go to their wedding because if they know how to put together an awesome and funny Save the Date, think about the awesome wedding they will throw.

Tip #5: Puns!

Get it? They’re tying the knot, and you just tied the knot when you opened the Save the Date. This is actually my personal favorite and the route I’m going when I find that nice Jewish boy (Read: sucker) to put a ring on it. This is one of those ideas that has the recipient opening and closing the card multiple times to see the string tie and untie. This Save the Date is not only beautiful and elegant, it has just the right dash of whimsy that says, “Yes, we’re classy, but playful. Come to our wedding, have a nosh, dance the Hora and rejoice!”

So, those were just a sampling of what catches my attention in the Save the Date world. These are the ones that make it onto the refrigerator.

What was your Save the Date like? And if you are still in the planning stages, what ideas have you come up with?

Getting Ready With The Girls

Getting ready with your bridesmaids is a fun start to your amazing wedding day! Whether you’re waking up together from a hotel slumber party the night before or you’re meeting at the bridal room of your venue to get gussied up, a fun and girly ambiance sets the tone for your day.

Most likely, you and your gals will get ready together with a photographer and maybe even the videographer with you to document this special time. Be yourselves! Laugh! Hug! Toast! These are the great moments that are captured to last as memories for years to come.

You might want to bring some bubbly with you! Most importantly, it will relax you because it’s likely you’ll have wedding day butterflies out of excitement. Also, there’s nothing like the sound of popping a bottle of Champagne and hearing the girly squeals of “Cheeeeeeers!” as you toast to your very near nuptials. Just make sure to have your lip color ready to reapply!

You might also want to gift your bridesmaids with a getting-ready outfit that looks great in pictures and, ideally, they can wear again! Matching robes with each girl’s embroidered monogram, coordinating track suits, and even fun t-shirts are spirited threads for the morning of the wedding. The only reason to think twice about t-shirts is the hair and makeup factor: when the bridesmaid goes to change into her dress and she’s already had her hair and makeup done, she may risk some damage. Therefore, it’s highly recommended you save the t-shirts for another bridal event and instead gift a getting-ready outfit that can wrap around, unbottom, or unzip.

Posed and candid shots are fun! You can all dog pile onto the bed in the hotel room for a group shot, which is really sweet for a bride and bridesmaids if they all know each other well and have spent a lot of time together like in a sorority house or weekend nights in high school. Candid shots of makeup applications, dress zipping, and bouquet holding are all wonderful moments to show the bond you and your ladies have during this portion of your milestone.

If your mom is close with your gal pals, it might be cute to have her join the party, too! Generations of your most favorite women all together will make your getting ready experience sentimental. I’ve seen wonderful photos of all the bride’s girlfriends and her mom and grandma hugging and supporting the bride as she enjoys the last few hours before she becomes a Mrs.

Your getting-ready morning shouldn’t make you feel stressed or anxious. Just relax, smile, enjoy the pampering and know that with your favorite friends and family, you’re on your way to the best moments of your life!

Engaged to Inspire

You’re engaged. You’ve picked your photographer. And it’s time to set up your engagement photo shoot. Aaaaand cue the blank thought bubbles and blame lack of inspiration. What should you wear? Where should you go? How do you pose? Should you bring props?

Kunio Photography shares Rachelle and Richard who do an engagement photo shoot right!

Take note: Wear clothes that are expressions of you! Make sure they’re comfy. You don’t want to be futzing with weird straps or funky waistlines.

Suggest a location that’s picturesque. If there’s a place that has special meaning to you, then fabulous! If you really can’t peg down a spot that gives you warm fuzzies, then just pick the pretty! Fields with wildflowers seem to be popular. Old farmhouses. City streets with colorful backdrops. You can do some really creative shots in these locations.

Allow your photographer to direct you and just go with you. The person you hired behind the camera may try some adventurous poses on you, and have fun with it because these are your engagement photos. Not your usual Saturday night going-out framers. They shouldn’t look like the rest of your snaps that are in your iPhone’s camera roll. They’re going to be the photos that go on your save-the-dates or guestbook or on your bubbie’s fridge. Getting artsy is totally kosher! Romantic poses. Flirty poses. Fun poses. Serious poses. Do ’em all and do ’em with gusto. Rock that camera like you’re not the next top model, but you are the top model. Right now.

Props. Are. So. Fun! No. They’re not. More like: PROPS ARE SOOOOOO FUN!!!!!!!!!!! Get creative with props and bring items that complement your photo space, your wardrobe, and your personalities. Props are the X factor that help showcase the reason why you’re you as individuals and as a couple. With the help of props, your love will make sense.

This adorable shoot looks like it belongs on the pages of an Anthropologie catalogue. Love the wardrobe and style. Love the location. Love the use of props. Rachelle and Richard come to life as a couple. Don’t you feel like you know them? And love them?

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